May 2012 Weddings
Melissa51212
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My fellow around 30 year olds...
Do feel extra pressure to have a baby soon! I'm not emotionally ready but scared to wait too long. I be 30 in march and I ave had people say to me hurry up or other people say oh you still have time. I'm already high risk with a heart condition so I really don't want to add age into it either...my coworker just had her first at 37 so I know it's not impossible just other thing to think about? Anyone else feeling rushed?
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Re: My fellow around 30 year olds...
I do. I will be 37 in February, and that freaks me out a little. I worry that if I wait too long it may not happen. However, due to a medical issue, I have to wait. The medication I will be on will cause major problems to a growing baby. I will most likely be almost 39 before we can TTC. This certainly makes me sad because I really don't want to wait, but I don't feel like I have much choice. One of my friends just had a baby (well, okay, March) and she is 40.
I don't listen if people ask because, really, it's none of their business. You have to do what is right for you and your H. Don't let people pressure you. To answer your question, you do have time.
I'm 28, but DH and I (currently think we) want 3 or 4 kids. So, if that's the case I feel like we should get on the ball.
Some days I think, "holy crap, I can hardly take care of myself" but I've always wanted to be a mom, since I was a little girl. And DH really wants to be a dad, and I know he'll be a great one. So we're currently TTC our first, but not telling anyone (except the boards) because I don't want to hear anyone else's opinion on my uterus. lol
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Wow, good luck! I can't imagine what that must be like having to go through that rollercoaster of emotions.
And I agree with all of the bolded.
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My sister was born when my mom was 40 (after 2 adoptions because my mom was convinced it was never happening.) I tend to put a bit of pressure on myself because of the crazy fast rate your chances drop starting at around 24, and as much as we love my sister, I don't want to have kids at home still in my 60's, so that more then any outside pressure makes me a little bit nervous. (I'm 26, and most people are telling me to wait, but I have some minor medical lissues that may play into it and don't want to add age issues into it.)
But, at the same time I am 100% going to adopt at some point so I am not too worried if it doesnt happen....we are thinking about starting to try sometime next spring.
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No. We can't have children, so I learned a while ago, to just let that be and people seem to not bring it up to often.
I would say....do what feels right for the two of you and your lives. I honestly believe that there really is no such thing as the "perfect time" to have a baby. There is ALWAYS going to be stress. There is ALWAYS going to be money questions? There is ALWAYS going to be other things that will make it "seem" like the wrong time. Sit down with your Dr. and tell him/her your concerns and what you are thinking as far as when you would like to start TTC and go from there. Women put so much pressure on themselves that half the time, that's the problem. Once they let go, BAMMO - pregnant!
We're both 27, but we're waiting until we buy a house to have kids, which will hopefully be in 2-ish years putting us at 29/30. I know that the timing will never be 100% right, but I want to get that big purchase out of the way, have our kids in a house (not our crappy rental) and put the money we're saving for a downpayment towards having kids. I'm really concerned that we'll have trouble getting pregnant at that point. Sometimes I wish we weren't so responsible and just did it, but that's not going to happen. Why do kids have to be so dang expensive!
I think the tricky part with TTC is the unknown. I was 33 (now 34) and DH was 42 when we got married. I've heard all the statistics about your chances going down, and for no other reason than my age (and a bit his) I assumed that we would have trouble conceiving. And, we got pregnant first try right after we got married. Honestly, we would have waited a bit longer if we'd known it would happen that quickly for us. I guess my point is, to be ready when you try (as ready as you really can be) because you just don't know. And, there is no perfect time.
Most of my friends have been over 30 when they've had their first babies, and while I know some who've had issues, most have concieved quite easily. And, most of the risks go up when you're over 35 not 30. I even tried to get my doctor to consider me high risk (you get extra appointments and ultrasounds) but they wouldn't b/c I'm not 35.
Just my two cents.
A bit- I'm 35 and H is 40 and we want at least 1 maybe 2. I've been sick for a few months and I'm finally feeling better so I'm hoping at the beginning of the year I can start TTC. I have a number of friends and family who had kids in their late 30s and 40s.
We have a house, we both have good jobs (though mine may not be family friendly enough), and I'm in the excited & terrified of the life change having a little one would be.
ha I'm laughing at the extra ultrasound part because my friend told me I'm lucky to be high risk because I will get that... I know she didn't mean it the way it seemed but I wanted to be like oh yes so lucky to have a heart defect lol
I'm 7 months pregnant and I still have days like that hahaha. I agree with your stance on not telling anyone. I made it very clear that I wanted a baby asap after our wedding and people would just not stop with the opinions and unsolicited advice. Well, even now that I'm pregnant people don't stop with the opinions and unsolicited advice lol
My brother has been married for 3 years. He and his wife are in their early 30s and my mom is always harping on them to get pregnant. My SIL plays it off well but I get so annoyed when my mom keeps bringing it up. I think it's so rude! You never know if that might be a sore subject or if that couple even wants kids! Not everyone does.