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TTC weekly chit chat!
lets change things up and lets have this be more of an open forum....so post whatever you'd like to about your TTC journey, struggles, successes, tips & tricks, or any thoughts/questions you have about TTC 
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron 
Re: TTC weekly chit chat!
H and I have only been "TTC" (I'm phrasing it like that since we're not seriously trying, but not preventing either) for a month...and after the first month I did get my period...which I am fine with.
I baby-sat for my friend who has a 2 month old last weekend and she was very fussy, and I thought to myself "do you still want to have a child?!?" lol I think at first since it was so new and exciting I was all for it, but I really do need to think about how a baby will change our lives...in a good way of course, but obviously change can be not all sunshine and rainbows too.
I bought a thermometer last week and I've been temping each morning. I'm curious to see how my temp changes over the course of a cycle!
Tip- I found out that lube can cause sperm to get "lost" or just not get through to the correct place, and I found a "safe" lube called pre-seed. It can be found at walgreens/cvs etc and its fairly expensive ($25ish) but seems to be a better idea than your standard lube.
?s for others who are TTC: How often do you POAS? only when you have missed a period or do you do a First Reponse type one that tells you before you miss a period? I've never POAS ever, in my entire life, and I'd rather wait until I've missed a period, but I know SO many people who do it before...
Also, are your H's excited about TTC? Are they nervous about being a father? Do they ask you about your charting/temping/when you're ovulating?
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
We aren't actively trying, though the more I think about it the more I want to bring it up with H that'd i'd like to start trying. I just got my IUD put in, so to make it worth it price wise, I wouldn't want to get it taken out until January/February.
H's sister is engaged, and they finally set a wedding date, September of next year, I mentioned to H that now we'd have to decide if we want to start trying and if i'd want to be pregnant at his sister's wedding. He was like well, what would be wrong with that? So I know he's not opposed to the idea, I just don't know when to bring it up.
I've thought about going to buy a thermometer and to start temping, just so I kind of know what's up with my body a little more, but I fear it will freak H out. I also think if I start doing it before TTC, and get into the habit, i'll see it as less of a "stressor" once we start TTC. I don't really want to change anything once we start TTC other than not having any form of BC. We aren't going to tell anyone (to eliminate that stress) and I don't want to have to do a complete lifestyle change so that my brain is constantly thinking about TTC. Maybe i'm wrong, but I think a lot of women stress themselves out of getting pregnant. I've just seen it with a lot people that I know. They "TRY" to get pregnant, then go to docs, and specialists, ultimately get told nope, they're not going to be able to have kids then BAM pregnant a couple months later. Just my opinion.
As for POAS, i've never done it, but I think i'd wait until AFTER i've missed a period, or i'd try to anyway.. .
Oh I am so glad to see this post today! This topic has been on my mind a lot lately.
I bought a BBT this week and have started temping/charting each morning and I too am curious to see how it changes. H and I are still using no protection but still not 100% trying yet either. We did talk last night and made a list about what all needs to get done before 100% TTC. So we will start working on getting those things done this weekend.
H is excited and ready to be a dad which shocks me a little because he has only been around 1 baby/kid and that is his godson who is only 2 and lives in Wyoming so we rarely see. He is nervous but realizes making mistakes and learning things is part of the process. He asks question as far as the charting but it's mostly well what does it say today and what does that mean but not so much about ovulating.
I have POAS before but only once I was late. I usually wait till I am at least a week late just because my body has not always been regular so being late is not really a shock. Now that H and I are TTC then I would say I will wait about a week then POAS.
Tip- Think about all details first as far as the months you will be pregant and at what time. And make your H aware of this too. H couldn't understand last night why we weren't "actively" trying yet. And I had to point out that I would be due in Aug and we live in Louisiana so from May-Aug when it is the hottest here I will be the biggest and miserable. Communication is key because guys do not think about this kind of stuff!
?'s For those who haven't started yet but are planning to soon: What month or around what month will you start TTC? And what is your reason for that month?
Can I ask you a ?....how come you had the IUD put in instead of just going on the pill for a few months if you're considering TTC within the next year? I just hear horror stories about the pain of the IUD insertion, and I'm just curious why you went that route as opposed to a less invasive one?
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
We have been TTC since the wedding. I chart temps and we started clomid last cycle. I just finished my last clomid for this cycle and we're waiting for the OPK to be + and get down to business.
I have some medical issues that the Dr has told me that with those along with H's varicocele (he'd die if he know I was talking about his testicles) that our chances are pretty slim of getting pregnant on our own. We've decided to just try the clomid but that's a far as we are willing to go. In fact we had a long talk last night and today called to get the paperwork for the SWAN for PA and are looking into taking a foster child with the possibility of adoption.
I knew you had been trying since the wedding and I think about you guys every now and then. I hope you guys are able to conceive. Good luck going through the foster/adoption process, I hear that can be a crazy ride also.
My BFP Chart Danger Love Blog
My BFP Chart Danger Love Blog
Actually the DPO thing was on FF, whatever.
HPT Accuracy Results Percentages: (Based on a 25mIU sensitive test)
10 dpo : 35%
11 dpo : 51%
12 dpo : 62%
13 dpo : 68%
14 dpo : 74%
15 dpo : 80%
16 dpo : 88%
17 dpo : 92%
Here's another good summary from FertilityFriend:
I just pirated all that from this thread. lol I'm done now :-P
My BFP Chart Danger Love Blog
I didn't find the IUD insertion that painful at all actually...
I had been on the pill for a long time abut 8 years, and had ZERO sex drive.. like really didn't care whether we did it or not.. which kinda sucks for a couple of newly weds. I was also terrible at remembering to take it, and it's more cost effective. We weren't really planning on TTC for about 2 years or so... get some renos and stuff done, but the more I think about it.. the more i realise that a baby doesn't have to stop us from doing reno's and the more people around me have babies.. the more baby fever I get.
We are talking about it. We're not really trying though occasionally we don't try and prevent it. H is more worried about my health and making sure I am ready... He's a bit freaked about it but not in a no way type but more in a oh goodness this will change our lives/finances way.
So I'm trying to be patient.... anyone have advice on how to be patient till after I get surgery on my shoulder and recover (a few months off)?
My advice on this would just be to remember how important getting that fixed is. You wouldn't want to be holding the baby and heaven forbid something happen and the baby get hurt. The baby's safety and your health are the most important things. A few months isn't that long to wait for safety for all of you. That's what we help me to be more patient is just reminding myself that over and over.
I loved reading this post! Hubby and I are not able to have children and I LOVE "listenting" to you girls talk about all your plans and hopes and fears. I could literally see all of us sitting around having this exact conversation and helping each other through the process.
Even more funny....when you think back that a year ago we were all head deep in wedding details, now you all are knee deep in baby details! What a difference a year makes....Love it!