How Long to Wait?

mancila60 · November 2012

So the baby question earlier got me thinking and this has been a subject with H and I lately so I thought I would see your opinion.

Once you find out you're pregnant and you tell your H how long will you wait to tell anyone else? Or how far along do you want to be before you tell people other than your H.

MrsSheeler518 · November 2012

I'm so torn on this one. I think I would like to wait until 8-10 weeks... but I think I will be too excited not to tell my close family around 6 weeks.

I'm hesitant about it because both SIL's had miscarriages this year, and it was just so heartbreaking. One told everyone early, and the other didn't; just informed us that she miscarried... so I'm very nervous about that happening!

DianaL616 · November 2012

I would only want to tell our parents very early on but only if they could keep it secret. I can trust my parents to keep quiet but not his lol....I think when the time comes I will just try very hard to keep it to ourselves for the first couple months until we are "in the clear" and miscarriage is less likely

mancila60 · November 2012

We already know the 1st trimester will be high risk for us so we really want to wait. Honestly I don't know if I can keep it in. We are planning on keeping it in at least 8-10 weeks or until the doctor says we are in the clear.

leopardgurl831 · November 2012

I was thinking about waiting 12 weeks to tell anyone because I know a lot of ppl who have had miscarriages. I think it might be hard to wait that long though and It might come out sooner.

mandi921vh · November 2012

I think we will keep it to ourselves until 12 weeks. I know my parents could keep it a secret, but MIL cannot, and I would feel bad about not telling her and FIL when we told my parents weeks before...

court115 · November 2012

We told our parents and our siblings at 7 weeks. We went on our honeymoon when I was about 7 weeks and weren't able to do a lot of the activities that we had planned because I was pregnant so it was just easier to tell the truth about the reason why than to make something up.

We didn't tell anyone else until 12 weeks. Even then, I only told if people asked.

comeongetdown · November 2012

I'll be calling my mom as soon as the pee stick dries! lol

DH will tell his parents after my parents, then everyone else we'll wait until after the first doctor's appointment.

toothpastechica · November 2012

Im planning on waiting until 8-12 weeks but I might be too excited...so no garuntees....also as pp said, I think if it comes up in conversation I'll just tell people rather then make excuses...I can see any dinner at the inlaws having questions along the lines "so why are you not drinking?" etc, since I always have wine over there.

spalko · November 2012

I've never really thought about it before but I would want to probably wait 8-12 weeks to say anything. I don't know if I could wait that long to tell my family but I'd be worried about them keeping it a secret. I would have to tell my work right away though since one of my main jobs is to prep and assist in surgeries. I wouldn't want to be around patients while they were being intubated or waking up since the anesthetic gas isn't good for a pregnant woman. Luckily, I work in a small practice (4 employees) so it isn't too many people that would know. All this baby talk is making my fever rise!

cpm1223 · November 2012

I'd tell my parents probably right away. I know that they'd keep it to themselves until we were ready to share the news with the world. I have a really hard time keeping anything from my parents (good or bad) so if I called my parents and was all excited, they'd somehow figure out why same if I was upset about something. I'd also like to have someone besides H to talk to if something did go wrong.

But I wouldn't tell the ILs, they all have huge mouths and I know that word would spread so fast. I'd wait the 12 weeks to tell any of them.

H told me to talk to my Mom when I was thinking about going off the pill. He wanted me to talk to a woman who has been through baby stuff, who wouldn't be someone that would tell anyone about our conversation, so I think H would want me to tell my Mom, and would also understand that I'd like to wait to tell his family.

adventureisoutthere · November 2012

I'm hoping to wait that 8-12 weeks to tell anyone, we'll have to see how that goes.. but that is the plan....

My only "issue" is my SIL is a chiropractor and if I get her to do any work on me i'll have to tell her, so i'm going to have to invoke the doctor/patient confidentiality clause with her... she'll be thrilled for us... but there's pretty much no way I can't tell her...

bpphoto785 · November 2012

I think I'd be too excited to wait and tell our parents, so probably as soon as the Dr. confirms we're pregnant. We'll probably be providing the first (if not only) grandkids and telling them we're pregnant is something I'm really excited to do!

I'd probably tell my boss at 8 weeks since I'm a department of one and we'd have to figure out what to do during maternatity leave, etc. As far as everyone else, probably around the 10-12 week mark.

Melissa51212 · November 2012

Im high risk and very nervous so I will tell our close friends and family that would be supportive no matter what happens would know probably pretty right away but I wait to reveal to the world till im showing or know the gender... I am super close to my work "family" so I might slip and tell them before planned haha!

mildlymailyn · November 2012

I would want to tell my mom RIGHT AWAY! Same with H. We are both super close with our mothers.

I would wait as long as possible to tell anyone at work. (I hope) I guess I would have to tell our office manager to explain appointments and the like and she has never been able to keep those things a secret. Drives the girls nuts.

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