Buying A Home
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Need some positive advice during stressful house hunting...
AH! We've pretty much just started...I told myself to make it fun & exciting, well thats an understatment lol. This will be our first home, we're young newlyweds with 2 children and a third on the way 
We've looked at every single 4 bedroom house in our area & price range but so far, theres been ONE that we really like, everything about this house is great EXCEPT the three bedrooms (fourth was a misleading room off the dining room/mud room) are soo tiny! The one is so small theres no way I could fit either my 5 year olds full size bed + dresser or two cribs + dressers in there! ugh, so with that we did not feel confident in this house and feel we need more options...Every other house needs lots of work/updating, basically dumping a lot more money into. Bleh, so basically im already frustrated and my mind is flustered with questions like, what if nothing better comes up!? what if we let the best were going to find slip by us?! what if we have to settle for less!!
We've looked at every single 4 bedroom house in our area & price range but so far, theres been ONE that we really like, everything about this house is great EXCEPT the three bedrooms (fourth was a misleading room off the dining room/mud room) are soo tiny! The one is so small theres no way I could fit either my 5 year olds full size bed + dresser or two cribs + dressers in there! ugh, so with that we did not feel confident in this house and feel we need more options...Every other house needs lots of work/updating, basically dumping a lot more money into. Bleh, so basically im already frustrated and my mind is flustered with questions like, what if nothing better comes up!? what if we let the best were going to find slip by us?! what if we have to settle for less!! 
Re: Need some positive advice during stressful house hunting...
1. Is there anyway you can widen your search even by 5-10 miles?
2. Have you thought about building?
House hunting can be stressful especially if you are in a market with not a lot of inventory. Are you in a time crunch to buy a house? This time of a year many houses don't remain on the market between the busy holidays and the bad weather. So there probably won't be too many new houses added until the spring. If you are in a time crunch you may have to reconsider some of your options. Is there a different location you can look into, is there something on the must haves you can do without, were any of the ones you passed over just overlooked because the changes were cosmetic? If you aren't on a time crunch, then I'd say give it a few months and new inventory should appear in the early spring. The worst thing to do in this process, though it's hard not to do, is play the what-if games. You just need to be realistic with what is available in your price range and make sure the house works for you. I would rather take the cosmetically out of date house with all the functional features I need over the updated/modern/with stainless steel appliance house that is missing something critical like the number of bedrooms/bathroom or yard we need. Cosmetic changes and upgrades can be made along the way and can be lived with, missing whole rooms cannot (at least not without a lot of money).
And talk to your realtor, they know your market, they know what typically is available in your area and in your price range. They should know what you should be able to expect if your price range. It might be that for a 4 bedroom in your price range, you are going to get more dated houses. We started out knowing that we could afford up to a certain amount but I really didn't want to spend quite that much (though I knew it wouldn't stretch us) and wanted to see what 10-15,000 less would get us. I soon learned that in our original range that got us all the needs but in older, dated houses. They could have worked but when we saw what upping our range by the 10,000 got us, we couldn't justify saving the money on the mortgage to just have to put it in to upgrade and repairs. It actually saved us money since the house we got needs no work done and everything is only 2-4 years old and was 10,000 more than the houses we first started looking at that while in okay shape now had old furnaces, old windows and old roofs that will need to be replace soon for a lot more than 10,000. So talk to your realtor, they should know this market and be able to guide you, if not I'd find a new realtor. But try to make this fun and exciting because it really can be a fun ride
Just what I needed to hear thank you
I had just mentioned that to DH the other day that I wondered if more would be listed after the holidays but we weren't sure! We are on a little bit of a time frame typically by the end of spring/early summer, also if we held off we will have some more $ for down payment meaning we can look into a little higher price range if we decide 
I think that would probably be our best bet to see what opens up after the season 
thanks again I really do feel better.
At the beginning of the homebuying process, for us, we would look at a house and be like "We love it! It's great, just maybe this could be different or that" and I will say that by the end, whenever we had something we would change about the house (room size, flow, etc.) we just knew it wasn't the house for us. We found the perfect house when we didn't think there was anything we would really change about it.
Keep searching. Don't limit yourself too much, and try looking at things you might not have otherwise been open to. I would have never thought in a million years that I'd be okay with a ranch style, but if I wouldn't have been open to seeing different kinds of houses we never would have found what did work for us.
If you can't find a house you like enough to buy then don't! Find somewhere to rent while you keep searching. It shouldn't be a source of stress and you definitely don't want to get tied down to something that you aren't 100% positive about. Good luck!