May 2012 Weddings
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Would you be offended?
I have a friend that recently anounced she is expecting. I was at lunch with her and her mother the other day and they started talking baby shower. Now, keep in mind she is only 10 weeks along so a shower is still in the distance but grandma-to-be is very excited about grand baby #1. Anyways, my friend brought up an idea she saw on Pinterest that instead of guests to the shower bringing a card, they purchase a childrens book instead to give as the 'card'. This way they can write in the book and it is something that child can have for years to come and actually use. I think it is a cute idea but I know from my lurkings on other boards that this is considered a MAJOR no no because you are telling people how exactly to spend their money. I don't dare post this any place else because I would get burned at the stake so I wanted your ladies opinion on the matter. Would you be offended if you received a baby shower invite with this message in it? The message she found on Pinterest is a cute poem so it's not like it would say 'Buy me books instead of cards' or something like that. Thanks for the input gals 
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Re: Would you be offended?
I think the idea is cute and honestly if it's not asked in a rude way I don't see the harm. And like PP said if they don't like the idea or want to do it then they won't.
For my bridal shower they asked everyone to bring household items and they all loved it and thought it was such a wonderful idea. I think if the invite doesn't come from the mom to be/bride then no one will take it as being rude.
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I personally rolled my eyes at all the stuff people on TK used to say they'd be "offended" by. I'd hate to be around someone IRL who got that butthurt over every little thing.
Anyways...I've been invited to showers with that same idea. They didn't tell you that you have to, it was worded more optional, like we will be collecting children's books so if you would like to write your message inside of a book instead of a card, we'll add it to baby ____'s bookshelf. A lot of people brought books, but a fair amount didn't. I think as long as you word it correctly, and it comes across as a no obligation option instead of a request, it's totally fine.
I probably wouldn't hang out with someone that was that easily offended. lol
I saw that same idea on Pinterest and thought it was super cute! I'd probably want to do it too
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No, not at all! I have heard of baby showers where the host asks the guests to bring their favorite children's book to start the baby's library. I think it's a cute idea
What I think is wrong is planning a baby shower when she is 10 weeks along... maybe I am old fashioned , but I am not telling anyone until we hit 12 weeks.
Just joining in the bandwagon... I think the idea is lovely and I am a sucker for buying kids books (and you can find them just as cheap as a nice card now).
I think it'd be great and cute.
Two girls I'm friends with on Facebook (one is an old friend from college and one is one of H's friend's wives) announced it on the Internet around 7 weeks. Toooooo early! I would be so nervous!