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Thankful Tuesday - the good with the bad
Yep, I know we just had the holiday that celebrates being thankful but I need this thread today. DH is really getting on my nerves about his lack of support for going to our birthing class. Every freaking Tuesday, it feels like a fight. Soooo,,,,,,,
1) I'm thankful for my loving husband who (usually) supports me in every thing from school to exercising to just relaxing when I'm stressed from my semester.
2) I'm thankful for the option to continue my education. I know I'll have student loans to pay off if I can live through some of these awful teachers, but not everyone has the chance or opportunity to go to school.
3) I'm thankful for my boss. She is such a sweet woman. She also gave me half of her raspberry chocolate cupcake today.
4) I'm thankful for being able to have a baby. These hormones may be driving both myself and DH a bit crazy, but at one point I was very scared I might not be able to have kids. So I'm thankful for the wonderful little girl kicking away in there and making me all hormonal.
Re: Thankful Tuesday - the good with the bad
Hopefully you can read it. One of the March mom's posted it and I just had to share. Not all of them apply to me, but it was a nice laugh.
Hehe! What a great picture regardless.
1. I am thankful that DH has a job, even though the hours are long and odd.
2. I am thankful that I have a job, even though it is not a teaching job or full time.
3. I am thankful that we are able to afford to buy a house right now.
Aww dh have sympathy pregnancy hormones and a little irritable? :P haha
1. I'm thankful to be able to go to grad school when I'm young and have this amazing opportunity to do something that matters
2. I'm thankful that J got a job offer from Amazon and knows exactly where and when he'll be working after he graduates in May. Helps me imagine the future
3. I'll come up with another one after class :P
I haven't been too thankful these days because of the stress about jobs and money DH and I are going through right now. It's been really hard for us to pay the bills and I'm REALLY hoping something will change before the baby is born.
But let me try this.
1. I am thankful for the baby. With my PCOS I was so unsure of when I would even get pregnant. I am thankful it happend so fast and natural for us.
2. I am thankful for my loving parents (mother) who has been helping me with some of my bills.
3. I am thankful that I have DH. He is so understanding and helpful with me. I've been so sick and he's just the best. I love him so much.
Married the love of my life on 1-21-12. Our princess arrived on 5-28-13.
This is really an amazing thing!
Hugs to everyone!!! I know I needed to remind myself of the good things yesterday. I do have one more to add. It was from yesterday but I was too tired to post last night.
Bad: My MIL is driving me crazy with baby shower drama. I'm not sure what or if I've posted about this. Short story - MIL invited FIL's girlfriend and is regretting it. See below for the long version if you want.
Good: My MIL is a very sweet woman. Honestly this is the first time she has ever driven me crazy. She's had her annoying mom moments like every mom has, but I love her. So I need to appreciate that after this shower, she'll be back to her normal MIL self.
Long version - My sister is throwing my baby shower but as she lives in another state, she was going to have it at my house. MIL very nicely offered up her house for the shower. A few weeks ago MIL invited FIL's girlfriend to the shower. She immediately regretted it. She's been trying to decided if she should un-invite her or just suck it up and deal with it. The Friday before Thanksgiving, DH and I were visiting MIL and DH brought it up. She told me she was just going to suck it up and that it wouldn't be too awkward for her. DH and I offered to change the venue but she refused. Then Tuesday of Thanksgiving week she calls DH to say that she feels like I should decide if FIL's girlfriend gets to come to the shower. WTF?? We already covered this. I'm not un-inviting her as it would be rude and cause a lot of drama and problems with FIL. Things are just getting better between DH and FIL. Second, I told her that as it was at her house, the final decision was up to her and that if she didn't want to make that decision we would be changing the venue back to my house.
She called again yesterday to check in with DH. I guess when she called that Tuesday, he told her we were just going to change the venue and she said for him to talk to me and get back to her. --- Now my major issue here is that she hasn't bothered to call me or text me or email me about all this. She keeps calling her daughters and DH, but then turns around and wants me to decide. DH wants me to move it back to her house because her house is bigger and he doesn't want to have to deal with it being at our house. He's not going to be home anyways, he's going out with his dad during the shower so I don't get his issue with having it at our house. Anywho, yesterday DH told her that we had decided to have it at our house because of all the drama associated in having it at her house. Now MIL is saying DH misunderstood her and she still wants to have it at her house. That her last phone call was only to have me decide on whether FIL's girlfriend should be invited.
*headdesk* moment for me. WE HAVE ALREADY COVERED THIS!!!! The one and only time she talked to me about it, when DH and I were at her house. She's talked to her daughters since then and this has caused all the phone calls. Part of the confusion for DH and I is that one of his sisters has stated she does not want FIL's girlfriend at her mom's house, ect. Every time MIL talks to her, she is suddenly undecided on what to do.
At this point I don't want a shower. It's too much of a headache. I'm so so so tempted to tell my sister we'll just have it where she lives. Drama solved, most of DH's family won't be able to attend as it would be in Kansas instead of Oklahoma. But that means I would have to travel at 36 weeks. I really don't want to spend 5 hours one way in a car when I could potentially go into labor at any point. My only other solution is to find somewhere else to host the party. Our local community center charges $50 an hour. I don't want to pay for that and I don't feel like my sister should have to pay for that as I asked her to have the party here. I might be able to get a discount on a room at the university I work at, but unless it's a lot cheaper than $50 an hour, it wouldn't be feasible. DH keeps saying to call local restaurants, but don't they also charge a fee? And why an I suddenly responsible for all this for my shower?
End of the long version!!! I just needed to get that all out in one piece, one place, to people who aren't directly affected or involved.
Shower drama..... I have had my share for the wedding. I know you did too.
This happens with my MIL all the time. Everyone talks to everyone else, and not to the person that needs to know. Then things get confusing. I have a feeling that your DH's family is a lot like Js family as well. I would just call her and get it straight, and try to stay calm. Tell her that from what you understand right now, it is at her house, and it is your choice to invite FILs gf or not. And have a decision and let her know that right away. That way, everything is out in the open.
I am so proud of him. I just hope everything goes well. He did his summer internship there and loved it. So I'm not too worried
Yep, it would be so much easier is she just called me. My phone is almost dead and I have class tonight, but I'm going to call her tomorrow before class. Pretty much tell her exactly what you said. The only part I was going to add was that if she was uncomfortable having FIL's girlfriend at her house then I am more than happy to move it to my house.