When would/do you step in?

Jim&Jaime · November 2012

Totally hypothetical question based on the following: We recently had an issue with BIL & SIL. During the "discussion" BIL said to DH, his brother, "I mean, I I was there and you were beating the crap out of DS, I wouldn't do anything. That's YOUR kid." Of course, DH told him that was the dumbest thing he's ever heard and moved on, but it has me thinking, who else thinks like this?

tiffanysbride · November 2012

Huh? Was BIL making a point that he would not interfere in a hypothetical situation b/c it is not his kid. Or, does BIL feel like your DH actually beat you DS and did not intervene. Not sure what your question is based on your post.

nurse714 · November 2012

Well, that's a touchy subject because parents have different views on discipline. Some parents may use "time out" and others use "spare the rod, spoil the child". Family or not, DH and I would not put our two cents in how someone chooses to discipline their child.

You used the word "beating" the crap out of the child. What does that mean? A spanking? One person may see a spanking as beating the crap out of a child while another feels it's discipline.

Eta- A friend of mine and her dd were in a grocery store and my friend spanked her dd. Some stranger lady said something to my friend about it and my friend and people around us in line went off on the lady. The situation got so intense that I believe the stranger lady was afraid and she left her check out items and left the store. I say that to say that I don't think it's anyone's business.

entropicbeauty · November 2012

It's a fine line - if it looked like abuse versus just discipline I would definitely say something. If the child was being "disciplined" to the point where there would be bruises or permanent damage, you better believe I would say something.

I don't disagree with spankings per say, but seriously hurting your child is never an option.

ClaryPax · November 2012

If my sister ever "beat the crap" out of one of her kids you better believe that I, and the rest of our family would say something. She would never do this though, so its a moot point. I wouldn't say anything to a stranger in a store, but if it was abuse I would notify the manager so they could decide if they need to call the cops. I don't think "beating the crap" out of someone is the same as a light spanking.

JNL$LSM · November 2012

Yes I would and have, that is why I have custody of my nephew. I understand children need to be discipline, however there is a difference from being spanked and beat. I know the difference; therefore, my family and I did what we had to do. We called the Department of Children and Family Service on my sister and her STBXH. Someone has to be the voiced for the children, and if mom and dad are being stupid or mute than family has to do what they have to do.

Jim&Jaime · November 2012

tiffanysbride:
Huh? Was BIL making a point that he would not interfere in a hypothetical situation b/c it is not his kid. Or, does BIL feel like your DH actually beat you DS and did not intervene. Not sure what your question is based on your post.

No, DH doesn't beat DS. BIL was saying, "Hey, your kid, do whatever you want". Which is lame, and his example was stupid.

Sewilson33 · November 2012

I think it depends on how the term "beating" is being used. I believe there is a very fine line when it comes to discipline. If it was what I consider "beating" to mean, I would probably intervene if it was my niece/nephew/child/close friend. A stranger I would not intervene without calling the cops.

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