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Potty training...what worked the first time doesn't work
I'm not a first time potty trainer. I feel like I shouldn't have to ask these questions. With my oldest, by the end of the first day she was at least making the connection and trying to get the potty. And by the 3 day we were have some success.
Why can't all kids train the same way? We are on day 2 and we haven't made any progress at all. I'm not expecting her to be potty trained by day 3 but I feel like we should at least be moving forward. She has peed on the potty a couple of times over the past couple months which is why I thought she was ready. I have her wearing regular underwear. After she pees she is wet and uncomfortable and wants changed but not really wanting to sit on the potty.
How long did it take for your child to at least make some sort of progress? Maybe my oldest dd just set the bar too high. Part of me is thinking I should wait until after Christmas. All the Christmas exitement might be too much of a distraction.
Re: Potty training...what worked the first time doesn't work
My kids were and are totally different when it came to potty training. And I don't think it was a girl/boy thing, it was a personality thing.
Heather was rarely willing to sit on the potty and when she did, she would rarely go. She showed no interest for a long, long time and didn't even care about having a wet/dirty diaper. We would try underwear at home and when I realized that she was keeping her underwear dry for hours and doing her business in her diaper, we basically forced her to use the potty. It was a painful but short process and she had few accidents from then on. She was 3yrs, 3 mos.
Todd was willing to sit from an early age and we often had "catches". He totally knew what the potty was for and we thought we were going to have an early trainer. We started trying underwear on and off from age 2, and he never kept it dry. We had some success when we let him be naked from the waist down at home, but as soon as there was something on his butt, the success stopped. By 2 1/2, he would sometimes ask to use the potty at home and we were still having catches at school & home when he happened to sit, but nothing consistent. I never found any currency -sticker chart, candy, toys - that would motivate him to use the potty consistently...until...
A month before he turned 3, we told him that swim diapers weren't allowed in the pool on the cruise we were going on right after his birthday. By his birthday, he was in underwear full time.
He continued to have accidents on a semi-regular basis and only recently have I been doing more loads of laundry without needing to add vinegar. We had a major potty regression last month and his overnight issues are still coming and going.
I'm not trying to depress you. Just letting you know that it is totally normal for your kids to be TOTALLY different with this, just like they'll be for many, many other things.
Yes. T had to have reasonable potty skills before he left the house in underwear, so it was an at home thing only for a long time. And obviously we didn't let him go out bare butt.
Follow her lead. You can still try at home and offer the potty, but put her in diapers when you go out. For the first month she was trained at home, Heather wouldn't use the potty at school or anywhere else. So she wore undies at home and pull-ups everywhere else for at least a month. It didn't cause a regression at home.