Military Nesties
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
A Sailor no more
My DH just got out after serving 8 years with the USN. He was pretty wreckless in HS, was lucky to graduate, and joined right after graduation. Fast forward 8 years and he is now out (as of last week) and facing starting over from essentially square one with school and job prospects. He has done a lot with the USN and has plenty of qualifications to get a civilian job right now making good money if he so chose. However, the point of going in (well one of the many) was to eventually be able to go back to school. He plans to start in January at a CC getting his basics and go from there. But now he is at a loss for what he wants to do (and overwhelmed with the possibilities after 8 years of very few choices). He kinda has that HS senior "Oh Sh*t now what" mentality but with more pressure because he isn't a care-free 18 year old anymore and has adult responsibilities.
The last month has been pretty rough for us. The entire time paperwork was making it's way through the system he was all gung-ho about being out and starting over, but I think this month the reality of unemployment and essentially a loss of identity has begun to sink in. I should say we have only been married since October of this year, and dated for only a year prior to marriage, during which time he was stationed shore-duty and did not deploy. As proud as I am for his service and to be his wife, I have a hard time considering myself a military wife because I never went through the first-deployment rite of passage so to speak. In fact, I still feel like I am getting to know terms and ranks and how the system works, and DH doesn't really like talking about work when he gets home save for a few "when I was deployed here we did this" sort of stories. But, I know that for as much as he acts like his enlistments were just something to do, it is a part of who he is and now he is feeling lost and overwhelmed. Any similar stories out there? Any advice on how to help him get through this and move forward to the next chapter in life?
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