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Would you mind sharing your anniversary with a sibling?
DH's sister is getting married on Saturday - which is also our 5 year anniversary. In general, I don't really care. It's just a day, and it's not like we're going to spend our anniversary with them every year celebrating. If it was me, I personally would have called my sibling out of curtosy to let them know this is the date we're looking at, hope it's ok, etc. They didn't do that, which surprised me a little, but I still didn't care. I did get annoyed when my MIL made a big show about "asking my approval" AFTER the ILs put a 10K deposit down on the reception venue. In that moment, I wanted to say, "Yes, MIL, it DOES really bother me. I'm going to have to ask them to change the date." 
Anyway, I've come across a lot of people who think this is super rude. Just curious, would you care about sharing your anniversary date with a sibling or sibling in-law?
Re: Would you mind sharing your anniversary with a sibling?
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You had your day.....5 years ago!! You don't own the day just because it's your anniversary! Like pp said, do you know for a fact that they knew it was your anniversary before they picked it? It may have been a thing that they didn't realize it until after they had already selected it and put down the deposit. After we announced our wedding date my aunt pointed out it was her and my uncles anniversary. Now we always remember each other's anniversaries and laugh about it. It didn't offend her, I think she actually felt special that we picked her anniversary (albeit unintionally) for our own special day. The worst thing I see here is that you have to spend your anniversary at the wedding but really it's not that big of a deal!
To add to this.....look at it this way - you get to celebrate your anniversary with dinner and drinks on them
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I don't think it's rude.
Also I share a birthday with my sister (we're twins) so a wedding date is nothing.
I'm a middle child, AND I had an older and younger sister ... what DIDN'T I share growing up? Lol.
But seriously, I really wouldn't care ... although I would be kind of annoyed at my MIL for putting down a huge deposit for that date and THEN getting all "Doesn't that BOTHER you?!?!?!?!" to me after the fact. Like, seriously? Did you write the check for them hoping that it would tick me off?
I'm more than willing to start validating people's ideas when they start having ideas worth validating
I think they should have contacted you, she's not a distant cousin she is your husbands sister she was there at your wedding Im assuming... I wouldn't be bothered by them having the wedding, but the consideration is nice.
For me the past 3 years someone has done something on our Anniversary, and it's getting old. wether it was an engagement party or a ladies night. Im not sure if it's just the time of year but I've felt like no one remembers my Anniversary... it's bothersome but at the same time I appreciate seeing my friends and family.
my sister got married on our first wedding anniversary. i was her MOH. i did ask that DH and i be able to sit together at the reception.
it was really nice spending our anniversary at a wedding, lots of love, romance, great food and partying to celebrate, and it's a cool little thing that me and sister share all these years later when most people have no clue when your anniversary is
I would agree that the MIL asking you AFTER the big deposit was put down is a little annoying. Why ask for in put at all?
But the rest of it...no I don't see it as rude. I wouldn't even be surprised that they didn't care to ask. The only people that truly care about your wedding anniversary are you and your husband. When picking a wedding date no one should have to take that into the decision making.
I accidentally picked one of my good friends anniversaries for our wedding. There is a five year difference. We never discussed it, but I'm pretty sure she doesn't care. It's nice, because now we wish each other a happy anniversary every year and always comment about how it was a great date to get married.
Wouldn't bother me one bit.