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Shower Advice
So one of my best friends who was a BM in the wedding is getting married in March. I'm not in her wedding as a BM but I am actually her DOC I feel it's a higher honor since she said she didn't trust anyone else with this job. Anyways she called me about a month ago and asked me if I would host/throw her wedding shower. NONE of her BM's offered or her sister so she was basically throwing it herself. I of course said YES I felt so bad but yet I was so upset she didn't ask me sooner plus if I had known I would have offered long before now.
So here we are present day trying to plan this shower. She wants to do a couples shower which is great BUT I have never even been to a couples shower. Food is mostly done we have ideas for that. And the location is done since it is at my house. The "theme" is not really a theme more of just a color code to go by which is rainbow so basically just colorful since we wanted it to fit guys and girls.
Other than that I have no clue what to do. I have never thrown a shower before at least not a wedding shower. And I have never even been to a couples shower. I know some of you ladies had couples showers or have been to one. So what type of things should we do? And are there any foods we should consider? I honestly am lost between the theme and it being "co-ed" I am confused.
What would you recommend?
Re: Shower Advice
I couldn't get past the bolded, sorry....Wow, that's extremely rude to ask someone to throw you a shower...if no one offers, you just dont have one.
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I agree with PP that it was rude of her to ask, but it's done and you're planning it.
We had a couple's shower. My MOH/SIL planned the whole thing. We had it at our house (H had to take me out for a few hours since was a surprise). We had all kinds of food, mostly finger foods, desserts, salads, beer/wine. And a cake. My SIL didn't do much decorating. She made a banner and hung that up. And there were some really pretty flowers on the table. Other than that, that was it. We didn't play any games. It was like any gathering really with people socializing. Then I had to sit in front of everyone and open gifts.
I don't think you have to plan games and things. And honestly, I am glad we didn't have them. I think they;re kinda lame really.
I have only been to one couples shower ever, but this is kind of how it went down:
There was food, mostly appies and desserts constantly, a cake that was kind of silly ( a grooms cake so he doesnt have to have one at the wedding maybe?).
gifts were done as normal, but with the couple opening and thanking, not just the bride. The gifts did tend to be less registry stuff and more just foodie items, wine, bbq sets things like that, I don't know if that was because they wanted to bring something a guy would be more excited about or if that was just thier friend group...I'll never know!
There were a couple games, but rather then being geared towards the bride, it was geared towards them as a couple... a trivia game/newlyweds style, where everyone actually guessed and then got points based on if they were right..and got a prize if you got higher points then the bride or groom (since its questions about thier significant other). a word game....everyone puts a word in a hat and throught the party words get pulled out and from that point on if anyone says the word they have to put on something funny (they had boas, top hats, costume masks etc).
Hope that gives you some ideas!
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Sorry, I've never been to a couple's shower before. But from what I have heard they are really just a party or gathering of people eating and hanging out and then the bride and groom open whatever presents they have. I think it's a really lower key kind of thing compared to a traditional bridal shower.
I would say just have some finger foods and drinks and probably a fun cake that resembles the couple and you're good to go!
We went to a couples shower this summer for my MOH.
It was basically a backyard BBQ. When a guest arrived, her 2 sisters/MOH unwrapped the gift and placed it on display on a gift table. There was a lot of booze & food. The only game was a raffle - you were given 5 tickets when you walked in. Then they had a table of paper bags & questions. Example: "Where did the couple take their first vacation together?" Then there were 3 bags with answers. You put a raffle ticket in the bag you thought was the correct answer. They later drew names of people out of the correct answer bags, and they won a prize (I think most of the prizes were booze, haha.)
Other than that, it was just drinking, socializing, and lawn games. It was awesome! Personally I find "traditional" showers pretty boring - no, I don't want to play 3 boring wedding related games. No, I don't want to spend an hour watching you open gifts of kitchen towels, toilet bowl brushes, and a toaster. No, I don't want to eat any damn jordan almonds wrapped in tulle. I'm seriously happy for you getting married, and I know it's awesome to get stuff you need, but why can't we spend 3 hours together just socializing and drinking instead?
If it were me, I'd probably host it like it was a cocktail party. I'd have drinks & appetizers, maybe some cards or lawn games if your friends are into stuff like that. I'd focus more on throwing a "party" than a "shower" - obviously it would be in your friends' honor. But guys are going to want absolutely nothing to do with wedding shower games and watching someone open home related gifts for an hour.
I'd think of party themes like "swanky cocktail party" or "luau" or "Mad Men" or "Harry Potter"...whatever they are into!
Hope that's helpful, haha. Sorry for the snark, but it's been a long week!
I love this idea! Much better than corny shower games.