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Quit my job

And I feel so guilty about it. I've been working as a vet tech for the past 3 years, and since last September, I've also put myself back in school. My classes have been after work, but I felt I needed to step it up. So, with my wonderful husband's blessing, I made the decision to go to school full time and only work part time. I told my job 7 months in advance, hoping to avoid any issues. They offered me two days off a week, and more if I needed. I put all my classes on those two days. Then I could work the other 3-4 days they were open. Well, two weeks ago, I was blindsided by my office manager. She told me that "several other technicians" complained that I won't be able to cover shifts if I have class. I knew exactly who these complainers were: the two techs that constantly call out for various reasons, usually a hangover. From the day I announced I was going back to school, they told me to quit. In the most diplomatic way possible, I was told to choose between work and school. Naturally, I chose the option that wasn't bullying me. I know it's the best choice, especially if I won't be supported at my job. However, I feel so guilty that I am able to quit my job and go back to school and live off my husband's salary. I will be trying to find another part time position somewhere, but I'm not in the biggest hurry. My last day of work is tomorrow, and I'm feeling a little sad about it tonight. :(

Edit: I feel guilty that I'm willingly leaving my job, but I have friends who are mothers that cannot stay home with their children.

Re: Quit my job

  • There's no need to feel guilty. You are making the best decision for you and your family. It's natural to feel sad or apprehensive about a new step, but really, you didn't do anything to feel guilty about!
  • I know the feeling. I was working and going to school and was becoming worn out towards the end of the semester. I was constantly sick and constantly on the go, so I couldn't get better. I was worried I wouldn't have enough time to study as much as I would like for finals (esp. since there weren't any midterms in my classes and the finals were comprehensive). 

    My husband told me that we would be able to make do for now if I quit my job. He said that it wasn't worth all the stress trying to juggle things. 

    So, I put in my notice at work. I got to see my work review and scored high. I received a work bonus because of this. It made me sad to leave a job with some much growth potential. 

    Money is starting to get tight. I have been fighting the urge to get another job but my husband is assuring me that focusing on school is more important. 

    I think you made the right choice! 

  • I know my 50 year old self won't regret this decision, but my current self feels horrible about not bringing in some cash to help out with the bills. And my husband tells me we're alright as well. It's just such a weird feeling.

  • Congrats on doing what's right for you/your family. It's a big step many people are too afraid to take. I understand the guilt though. It'll fade once you throw yourself into school.
  • imageWendyGR:
    There's no need to feel guilty. You are making the best decision for you and your family. It's natural to feel sad or apprehensive about a new step, but really, you didn't do anything to feel guilty about!

     

    I agree! Try and think of the long-term. It's nothing to feel guilty about that you want to advance your education and make more money for your family. You are lucky to have a partner to support you!

  • Don't feel guilty. Your DH salary is your salary. I just graduated with my BA in December. In the fall my DH will be going back to school full time to fnish his degree. I will be the bread winner but I know that it is to better OUR future.
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