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Jaje09182010
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Depression? Pathological Lying?
Hey guys! Just started posting again today- although this problem has been going on for a little over a year- long story short over the past year my mom has been hospitalized a few times for depression and has become really really different. She is definitely sick- but nothing medical has been diagnosed and she hasn't made much or any progress in therapy. The thing I don't understand however is she lies about EVERYTHING. About if or if not she paid a bill, about if she is going to come over, about where she is- and they are impacting others pretty significantly (We went to go stay at her vacation home and she lied about having paid the power bill so we couldn't get into the garage) and then another time she said I could pick her up to go stay with her sister where I bought her a plane ticket so she could get some help (and then she refused to go)... She has also on multiple occasions shown up at my house uninvited and broken in. She lied about buying my little brother and sister xmas presents- she lied to her bf about having renters at her place and almost agreed to let him buy a ticket down there for a vacation when the place was booked! I decided to see a therapist to deal with how stressful it has been with my mom but anyone who has any experience with depressed family members and if this makes any sense to them I would love to hear your take on the situation.
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Re: Depression? Pathological Lying?
She needs a full checkup from an internist.
I do not think this is "lying" per se --- your mother's got some type of a problem. For her sake make sure she gets a checkup.
Take her to lunch and then tell her what you told us -- stress that you are worried about her health in light of recent events.
That she broke into your home is worrisome. Hoping you and your mom get to the bottom of this very soon.
If this is a drug interaction -- or even a side effect of a drug -- this is easily remedied. Wishing you luck.
My Mom has depression and some other issues that don't make sense. (See the "My Mother is Crazy" post below) While it's easy to blame the person, clearly there's something really wrong with them. It makes it easier to take some of the stress off, but you still end up dealing with the problems it creates. If she won't get help, you can't make her. My Mom wouldn't get help, and I'm not sure she has to this day. You can though, and it sounds as though you're trying to do all you can yourself.
She may or may not be someone you can reason with in a rational discussion about it all. There are also some personality disorders of which lying is a trait. I'm not meaning to say that any of it is excusable, but just an idea for a reason something like this could happen. Good luck.
This is exactly what I was thinking by the time I got half way through the OP. A lot of those are more than just lying, it sounds like a possible drug influence. Another reason might be more than depression? Undiagnosed/treated bipolar can lead to lying...constantly. But, the breaking into your house and such really sounds more like a drug problem...
Good luck with everything, I hope for the best for you both.