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First Birthday Invitation Question: Would this be offensive?
So I have a bit of conundrum - I have quite a few friends who do not have children by choice and are not "kid" people. I want to invite them to Gabriel's first birthday b/c they're friends and I'd love for them to celebrate with us - but I also don't want them to feel obligated to come. To be honest. I wasn't wild about going to kids' birthday pre-Gabriel. And I don't love it now.
I've thought about calling them before I start making plans/sending invitations - but I don't want it to come across like I don't want them there b/c it's quite the contrary.
If you received a phone call from a friend (these are people I've known 20+ years of the most part) inquiring if you would want to come to their kid's birthday party - would you be offended? I'm not doing this to cut the guest list or anything, I just don't want to put my friends in the position where they're like "Oh great, we have to go to a first birthday party."
Am I overthinking this? Have any of you dealt with something similar?
Re: First Birthday Invitation Question: Would this be offensive?
Agree. If you would like them to be there, then invite them. The rest is up to them.
ditto!
Thanks everyone. I had the feeling I may be worrying myself over something that isn't mine to worry about, lol.
The thing is, not to make them sound like d*cks, but my friends who are not "kid" people REALLY are not kid people. When I've told them stuff about Gabriel, they tend to reply with "Reason #### why I'm never having kids..." one of them even went as far as saying, "I really hate babies." So...sigh.
I appreciate the input!
I know my brother in law is not a kid person and will never come to any parties. I still send him am invitation and updated photos.
I agree with other posters send the invite if they come great if not at least you sent it.
Jake - 1.15.08
Liam - 5.17.11
and if they RSVP with a no, tell them you understand and just wanted to include everyone who helped you get through the year (or something similar)
This topic reminded me of a great article I read the other day, it deals with birthday parties.
http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/the-good-life-some-dos-and-donts-for-people-without-kids-when-dealing-with-their-breeder-friends/
Thanks for posting this, Kris. I'm really feeling the kids vs. no kids isolation right now. A lot of our friends have forgotten about us, now that we have G. I try not to be offended, but it really hurts my feelings.
There's a group of 6 that used to include us all the time - but since we've had G, they've made no attempt to make any plans with us. The did invite us out with about an hour's notice and they haven't asked since we said we couldn't go. I see the pictures on FB all the time and I'd like to say I'm above being upset by it, but I'm not.
Definitely good to think about. Thanks!
WOW. if that is the case then invite them and when they PROBABLY DO say no YOU shouldn't be offended that they don't want to come! OR if you really know they won't come don't invite them They probably wont be offended to not get the invite!
I personally think that is a little rude to make comments like that- I mean come on, They don't want kids fine- but as a friend they should, at least pretend a little, to support your decision....
I have a friend that since we were young said she didnt' want kids, but she will smile and chuckle and at least pretend to be interested in a story, and actually doesn't mind if you bring your child over when invited.
Married, September 23, 2006
I won't be offended if/when they choose not to come. And honestly, while I think it's unnecessary, I'm not really offended by their comments either. I was just trying to drive home how kid unfriendly they are, lol. Different strokes.