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I wasn't sure where to post......

I have a step son who lives with us full time, i am his mother i am the only mother he knows.  His biological mother walked out at 14 months and never looked back, my son will be six in feb and she has sent three emails in the last two years but never put an effort out to have contact.  sending a few emails to me isnt an effort to see your child at all.  my boyfriend and i plan on getting married just waiting till it is financially the best time to do so.  I want to legally adopt my step son once we are married and i have been reading up on my states laws.  it says that abandonment can be filed which could make it easier to adopt him if i file that way.  what i am wondering is if a judge would consider a few emails an attempt to have a relationship with him.  My son could not pick her out of a line up.  He has no idea who she is and has no connection with her at all.  im scared that they will give her rights even though she does not deserve them at all?? any advice appreciated!!!

Re: I wasn't sure where to post......

  • you really need to ask a lawyer, or someone who has dealt with something similar locally. so much of this depends on state laws and even the quirks of specific judges.
  • You need to talk to a lawyer about all of this. If this is more important than a wedding, go to the Justice of the Peace and get married. When you need a lawyer and are facing a fight in court it is expensive. Start saving. 
  • Try posting this on The Bump, they have a Blended Families board that is awesome. I don't have any experience with this particular issue, my DH and I get SS every other weekend, but I am sure there is someone on the board with advice. I have learned a lot just in the last month on there. Check it out!
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