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wedding invitations
Ugh, warning, pregnant hormones here!
Yesterday, I got a wedding invite for a very good friend's wedding April 6 in Baltimore. DH and I made hotel arrangements a while ago after the save the date. I thought it was a bit early for the invitation, but I figured whatever and will send back the card. I'll be like 23 weeks, no big deal.
Today, I get a wedding invite for a family wedding May 25th. An actual invitation! The response card says respond by March 5th. REALLY??? Am I over reacting? I'll be 30 weeks at that point and who knows if I will get bed rest or anything. It's only at Bear Creek and in my head, we were definitely going because it is a really close family member, but I didn't expect to have to decide like 3 months before the wedding!! Especially when I have NO idea what 30 weeks will bring, they already told me yesterday I'll deliver at 38.
Re: wedding invitations
We had 3 weddings scheduled when I was 30+ weeks. The doc pulled me out of one because it was in Chicago and I was high(ish) risk. The one was in NJ and I was fine. The last one was on my due date and the bride had to do catering numbers the week before so she was cool with us planning on being there but not needing to know until the last day. All 3 brides were cool with the "yes, but" decision. I guess it depends on how close you are to the person.
I would reply yes with the caveat that you will have to let her know as it gets closer and you may need to back out. That is CRAZY early for a response.
If they are super close could you call and ask if you could let them know week of because of your circumstances?
P had a cousin due on our wedding. I was more annoyed that her parents RSVPed yes and then decided day of to not come. Like just call that week and say they couldn't would have been fine or writing maybe on the card.
Yeah a mid-January invitation for a late May wedding is cray. Not like you're in Europe!
I agree with pp's. A call in to the couple to explain your circumstances (once you're public) is entirely appropriate. As long as you're not dealing with a total a-hole bridezilla, I think they'll be understanding.
If they're your friends they should be okay with a "yes, but". Especially if they know anything about pregnancy.
A friend of ours ended up having her son 10 days before our wedding. I left it up to them to make a game day decision based on how they were feeling, and it worked out great. Mom ended up coming to the ceremony, and that was awesome, but if she hadn't, it would have been great too, b/c I know that they were a little occupied at the moment
This about covers my thoughts!
I think the more notice the better when it comes to wedding invitations although the RSVP date is a little early. I have been shocked at how close to the event we have got invitations and have missed weddings which we would have been able to go to if we'd had more notice.
I'm sure they'll cut you some slack given your happy news though - congratulations again!! : )