How is married life?

Melissa51212 · January 2013

I saw this topic on other board...that question, does everyone else get asked that frequently? For me, life is no different. We been together 6 years and lived together for 3 so it really didn't feel that different besides saying "husband" and having a different name.

I get so tired of saying, "oh the same" haah!

comeongetdown · January 2013

I'm sure it's just something people say to make small talk or to be polite, kinda like "how are you doing?"

I usually answer with, "so far, so good!" lol

For us life has changed drastically since getting married, so I'm in a little different boat than you. We were living in separate states when we got married, so we're finally living with each other in a new place since we got married and still doing the whole adjusting to each other thing.

By now it's been so long I'm surprised you're still getting that question, that sucks Stick out tongue

SuburbsMrs · January 2013

We get it every once in awhile. Since it's still so new to me I don't mind the question. We only moved in right before the wedding and right after the wedding was some serious never see each other chaos. So we are only just getting into the swing of things in the last couple of months.

I can see why it's a frustrating thing for you with your story though. Personally we're still working things out so I like the invitation to talk with my married friends about... back when you were newly married what was it like. Plus I don't have any IRL friends who have been recently married so it's not a general topic.

AurorasEnvy · January 2013

We get it now & again too, but I'm in the same situation as you - we'd already been living together for 2 years by the time we were married. Honestly though, even when we moved in together it wasn't a big deal for us. When we planning on moving in together I'd say "well, we already spend so much time at each other's places anyways, so it won't be hard" when my friends who already lived with their SO would say "OMG, it's going to be SO hard! ___ and I fought so much when we first moved in together...."

Yeah, it was pretty much like I said - NBD. What can I say.

I can see how it would be a big deal though, especially if you've never lived near each other to spend a lot of time at each other's places. I can't imagine back in the day what it must have felt like to be a virgin bride, moving out your parents' house for the first time - and to worry about that on top of the whole wedding day.

Some would probably disagree, but I like the way it happened with us (living together before marriage). I wouldn't buy a car without test driving it, either

zamboni00 · January 2013

I get that question still... mostly from people I haven't seen in a while.

We also lived together before marriage, for about 2 years, and the transition between dating and living together was super easy. I did notice a difference with marriage... I'm not even sure I could put it into words, nor do I care to get into it with someone who I rarely see, so I typically say something like 'so far so good.'

It does sometimes take me by surprise, though, because I feel like it's been long enough that I certainly don't expect this question

mancila60 · January 2013

We get this question too and I hate it! We lived together for 2 years before we got married so we were good and it was normal for us. The only difference is our first 2 months of marriage MIL lived with us so it took time getting used to being alone again but no different.

I agree with Sam on the whole back in the day thing. I mean to move out of your parents house a virgin to get married all at the same time would be a huge shock but now days things are so different (thank god)!

MrsSheeler518 · January 2013

I think we both get this question a lot!

Honestly, H and I have a stronger relationship now, more than ever. We didn't live together before we were married, and were still in college.

Now we get to see each other every day, eat dinner together, we really do almost everything together, besides working! We both come from families that spend a lot of time together, and he's my best friend, so we really never get sick of each other.. at least not yet anyway!

I can truly say that this first year has been the best year of our relationship, yet! We got told a lot that the first year is the hardest, I don't believe that one bit!

mandi921vh · January 2013

I used to get this question frequently after we got married, and from time to time people still ask. I say nothing really, because nothing has changed. I feel like I need a new answer haha.

The only thing that really changed was our last name. I don't feel like our relationship is any different either, other than we went from dating, to engaged, to married. I think it felt more different to go from dating to engaged than engaged to married.

bpphoto785 · January 2013

My favorite response to this is "same as when we were living in sin." H & I also lived together before getting married and practically lived together while we were dating in college.

I agree with Sam that I don't know how women did it "back in the day." Especially if they didn't have any brothers. It would have been such a shock!

zamboni00 · January 2013

bpphoto785:
My favorite response to this is "same as when we were living in sin."

I think I may have to steal this. Hope you don't mind

spalko · January 2013

We get asked this quite a bit and I always jokingly respond with, 'Well, we still like each other so we must be doing something right'

Like most, we lived together prior to getting married but what was harder for us was that when we first moved in together, H left for his tour overseas 2 weeks after renting our first place together. It was harding adjusting to him coming home from Iraq then it was to being married. Making it through his deployment has made our relationship stronger and has brought us closer together. From it we've really learned to cherish every second of every day and to be thankful for even the smallest things.

Mona8 · January 2013

We get this question occassionally, but it really doesn't bother me. Even though it feels like the wedding was forever ago, I like being reminded that we're newlyweds. I guess it takes me back to that day and just makes me happy... don't know if that makes any sense.

But my response to the question is usually, "Good! No complaints!" And I actually enjoy being asked about married life, even if my answer is lame. lol

adventureisoutthere · January 2013

We still get this every once in a while.... H and I were only dating for just over 2 years when we got married.... but we lived together for abotu a year and a half before that. My standard answer has been "the same as non married life except now I wear 2 rings" that usually gets a chuckle.

I've heard from some people that all of a sudden EVERYTHING changes after they get married even if they've been living together for quite a while before hand. That paper gets signed and everything changes...

Lucky for hubby and I everything has been great! and I hope it's all going really well for you guys too!

2012insider · January 2013

I get asked this all the time! And often from the same people. It always makes me feel so uncomfortable. I usually just say it's wonderful because it is, but I generally just hate the question.

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