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Not TGIF
I'm currently sitting at my desk at work feeling numb. My mom called me and told me that my paternal grandma passed this morning. I haven?t told anyone here yet. I want to go home, but I also don?t want to sit at home waiting for H to get home and just ?think?. I?ve been very lucky, I have never lost anyone close to me before and I?m 28. My maternal grandfather passed away 9 years before I was born. All my other relatives have been living long lives. My grandmother was 90, almost 91. My grandfather, I?m afraid almost to go see him. He will be 93 in March and I just hope he still has that drive that has kept him with us this long. I can?t think straight. You ladies have been so awesome and since I don?t want people I work with knowing right now (they get annoying and nosey and I just don?t want that attention), I need to share. There will not be a wake or funeral. My grandfather will have my grandmother cremated and then keep her with him. When he passed she will be buried with him. There is talk of a repast or something but right now nothing. So, I don?t know what to do. Anyway, I just needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for reading.
Re: Not TGIF
{{HUGS}}
I knwo what you are going through. I have been unfortunate enough to lose alot of people in my life. I think that you just need to try to keep your mind off of things. I know that when I found out that my step mom had an inoperable brain tumor, I couldn't stay in the house so I went to the dance studio that I taught at.
If you do leave work, you may want to find someone to be with, whether it be DH, a friend or another family member. And don't be afraid to see your grandfather, you need him just as much as he needs you.
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope your grandmother is at peace now. She will forever watch over you. Remember all the happy times, and since you had her for so long, you have many.
As soon as your H gets home, give him a huge hug. That's why he's there.
Your family are in my prayers,
I'm sorry for your loss.
Unfortunately, I've lost a lot of loved ones in my 27 years. It never gets "easier"
Oh no, I am so sorry for your loss! With all the time I have spent this year in the hospital and follow up appointment with my grandmother (two strokes, one heart attack and congestive heart failure since 3/30/2012), I have spent a lot of time coming to terms with the inevitable. She is the last of four amazing grandparents I was lucky enough to know and grow up with, so I also know it still hurts. You can only handle this the best way you know how! If you need distraction, allow it. If you need to withdraw for a few days to sort through, then do. My only advice is to choose now to watch yourself objectively or enlist someone you trust so that if you are too distracted or too withdrawn, you know to reach outside for some guidance.
I don't believe I know what a repast is. My maternal grandparents are buried next to each other. Their plots are within a few feet of my paternal grandfather - and grandmoter will go next to him. My dad has all the information since the arrangements are already made. We talk often of Mom and Dad talking to us about their wishes - and haven't sat down to so yet.
I'm babbling. How is THAT for distraction? This is a difficult time for you. Lean.