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DH's Hyperactivity/ADD
My DH is going to the Dr's tomorrow to hopefully get something for hyperactivity/ADD. He's been struggling with this for years and it has really impacted our marriage. His inability to sustain attention on a task (including spending time with me or DD) has caused a strain between us. I thought for years that I was the problem (being overbearing, nagging etc), meanwhile his ADD was the cause or majorly contributed to of a lot of our arguments. He only told me six weeks ago about the ADD (which so far is self-diagnosed).
Does anyone else have a partner who struggles with this? I would like someone to talk to who can relate and maybe give advice and tell me where I can find support as the spouse. I don't know what to expect from treatment and I'm nervous that treatment won't work, and I'm trying to be patient with him while he struggles to get through this.
Re: DH's Hyperactivity/ADD
I think you need to be open and honest with your feelings at all times about how his behavior affects you. That being said, I would suggest some marital counseling to help communicate more effectively. Hopefully a talk with his doctor and perhaps the right medication can help.
Do you go to individual counseling? That may not be a bad idea.