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Foster Update
Little man had his court date today. Turns out his sister knew the abuse was happening but didn't think that she needed to report it, since he's already in therapy due to the crap his mother did to him. She no longer has custody of him or her seven children as of this afternoon and is being charge with some sort of child endangerment. He's still at his teachers house since she is an approved foster parent in the county. I did get to talk to him over the weekend and he sounds OK, just confused about what is going on.
Our home study is supposed to be this week, maybe Thursday the social worker told us, but there's a hiccup. It appears that another one of his relatives has crawled out of the woodwork and is filing for custody. Which means that we may not get him after all 
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I'm glad something's being done about his sister!! Thank goodness no more kids need to get hurt because of her!
my fingers are crossed for you Leah in tht your home study goes well! I also hope that whoever this relative is of that lil guy, they have the means to properly take care of and support him in the ways that he needs! Sometimes relatives really aren't the best....
Please keep us in the loop! My thoughts are with you!
My fingers are crossed for you and your H! Heightdeprived is right...sometimes relatives aren't always the best choice.
And I do not understand how the sister knew about the abuse and just let it keep happening! How sad for your little man and his seven cousins. I don't understand what is wrong with some people....
That poor kid and that horrible sister how she ever thought that was okay just baffles me. Thank goodness they found out about her now though. I really hope this relative is completely different from the rest. But my fingers are crossed for you guys I hope you still get him. I just see better things for him with you.
Please keep us updated!!!
Wait a minute..... so wasn't it the sister's BOYFRIEND that was.... harming.... the little boy?! And she KNEW about it?!?!? Oh my word! What a jacked up family. I'm so glad those kids were taken from her.
I really hope your home study goes well (I'm sure it will) and that this new relative that's crawled out of the woodwork doesn't cause any problems. I know the law is the law, but for crying out loud, this little boy's family has put him through enough abuse for ten thousand lifetimes!
Keeping y'all in our prayers and FX everything works out for the best of the little boy and you & your husband.
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I was thinking the same thing. This family is so screwed up there really are no words for them. This little man needs stability in his life and it seems like you and your H are ready to give that to him. I am keeping my fingers crossed that this all goes the way it should. I am hoping these relatives are wanting to step in to help, not for other reasons.
Keep the faith and hang in there.... <<hugs>>
Well its good that the mother is being charged and that these kids are not going to be in an unsafe home anymore.
Is this relative filing for custody of all the kids or just the one? Typically they will try and keep siblings together if possible, and keep kids in their family of origin whenever possible (safe/can provide for the child's needs). Often times relatives do mean well and wait until the child is removed before they step in because of strained relationships with the child's parents (often times don't even know about abuse until kids are removed), so its not uncommon to not know about anyone willing to step in until they know that the parents legal rights are permanently cut.
I hope that whatever happens you are able to show this little guy that he is cared for, and that the courts do make the decision based on the needs of the child and not on the politics of the situation. Hang in there, if you do get him great he will have awesome parents; if you don't, as hard as it is, try and not hold it against his relatives, he needs all the caring adults in his life he can get, even if its from afar or just in prayers. Keep us posted either way and good luck on your homestudy!
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Just some background info, the boy in question was already taken from his mother's custody and passed around the family. The family saw the boy as "income" instead of an actual child, because they received compensation from the government for keeping the boy. The boy was staying with his much older sister, the sister's boyfriend, and all the sister's kids. The boy's sister's boyfriend abused the little boy and when the little boy told, he was taken from his sister and put in a temporary home (with his teacher). All the other kids would be his nieces and nephews (since they were his sister's kids), not his siblings.
Who knows what's going to happen with all the other kids, but for the time being the little boy is staying with his teacher (who's an approved foster parent) and kushie and her husband are filing to foster the little boy and eventually adopt, I think.
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Just some background info, the boy in question was already taken from his mother's custody and passed around the family. The family saw the boy as "income" instead of an actual child, because they received compensation from the government for keeping the boy. The boy was staying with his much older sister, the sister's boyfriend, and all the sister's kids. The boy's sister's boyfriend abused the little boy and when the little boy told, he was taken from his sister and put in a temporary home (with his teacher). All the other kids would be his nieces and nephews (since they were his sister's kids), not his siblings.
Who knows what's going to happen with all the other kids, but for the time being the little boy is staying with his teacher (who's an approved foster parent) and kushie and her husband are filing to foster the little boy and eventually adopt, I think.
This is right- thanks for summing it up for me. His mother is deceased- thanks to a drug overdose and dad is in jail on drug charges and repeat dui's. We'll see what happens after our homestudy this week./
I went through the old posts to see the original story because I couldn't remember the whole thing... I feel sick to my stomach. You and your DH are such good people for trying to help this boy.
Hopefully this is the beginning to a stable and happy life for the kid. Good luck for the homestudy!