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T&P (loss mentioned)
If you could spare some T&P for DH, DD and I we would appreciate it. After a very nightmarish 4 days, we found out that our little one is now gone. It happened very quickly and was more or less complete in likely the first two days. It started Sunday, I saw my dr Monday and by time I got a u/s Tuesday it was over with almost nothing left inside my body. They confirmed it today with another blood test and said based on the u/s and blood work it should be just about over. It didn't physically hurt, but emotionally DH and I are a mess. We were really getting excited for DD to be a big sister. Thankfully DD is too small to understand, though she does miss her mommy, because I try but I am very mentally absent from everything right now. DH has been a champ and he is playing hooky tomorrow so we can take DD to the zoo and just get out of our sad house for a while.
Re: T&P (loss mentioned)
oh I am so sorry :-( I can't even imagine how hard it is to deal with this and to have to try and put on a happy face for Sam.
Hang in there we're here if you need to talk.
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I am so sorry. It's an awful experience.
Take time to grieve. This book (can't make it clicky- http://www.amazon.com/After-Miscarriage-Catholic-Companion-Healing/dp/0867169974/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1360593121&sr=8-1&keywords=after+miscarriage) was very very very helpful. It helped me put into words some of what I was feeling and helped DH and I talk some things through.
We also went to a SHARE meeting... but found that our loss didn't seem to compare to what some of the other couples went through (with much much later losses).
The miscarriage/loss board helped during/immediately after. And the TTCAL was very helpful (and sometimes very intimidating b/c of what some of the women have gone through).
Thanks for the book suggestion Ellen. I'll try to check it out at some point.
I'm pretty much terrified by TB and the dramaz there, but Amy helped put me in touch with some people to talk to when I feel like it. Right now I just want to curl up and sleep until my heart doesn't hurt so much and I don't feel so angry all the time.
Thank you all for your kind words. I truly appreciate knowing that there are people out there who are there for us right now, especially since only 2 friends and now my mom know about the loss.