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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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My Finacee is going off to bootcamp
So this is kinda of a long story.
My Finacee, Shea and I (we are a same-sex couple) met over a year ago and have been dating for eight months. Recently she asked me to marry her, in which I said yes.
She is going into the navy and is going to leave for bootcamp Monday. I am scared and not sure how to handle this time away from her. I'm just looking for advice and knowledge to know Im not the only one who's so nervouse with there S.O. gone for eight weeks!
Re: My Finacee is going off to bootcamp
Unfortunately separation from loved ones comes with the territory when it comes to being a military spouse. This is unlikely to be the only time you'll be separated for an extended period of time, and deployments are a lot longer than 8 weeks. Consider this a trial run. The absence of your Fianc?e is not easy by any means, but try to keep yourself occupied with your own life. Many military spouses get so wrapped up in their significant others that when they leave they have a hard time coping and become hermits. I'm a shy person and and I tend to be very introverted when my social butterfly of a husband is gone. Take a class, find a hobby, read a good book...
My husband always says that although the leaving and being away from home is difficult, it makes coming home that much better. This can either kill your relationship or make it stronger. It's up to the both of you to have enough trust, courage, and to put the work and communication into your relationship to determine which one it's going to be.
Hope this helps.
My husband (married 4 months) recently joined the Navy, too and leaves February **th-I won't see him for 5 long months. I too, struggle with things and am not looking forward to the separation. I've found that having something to do to keep busy helps a bit, that way it won't constantly be on your mind, making you worried. Once she's at basic, you'll get to write letters every week and they get occasional phone calls to home. Between letters and keeping yourself busy, these two months should fly by and you'll be reunited before you know it.
***Edited by a moderator. I know it's only Boot Camp, but please don't post dates. You should really read up on OPSEC and PERSEC. It's never too soon to start practicing them***
It's tough to be away from the person you love. Try to find a way to break the time up into smaller pieces. Plan something to look forward to each week. I usually have lunch or dinner with friends, get my nails done or go to the movies. For long periods of time, I plan bigger things each month. Take a road trip. Plan a camping trip. Go to a concert.
Also take the time apart to do something to grow yourself. Like some one else said, many spouses of military members focus so much on the SM, they lose them selves. Work on your education. Pick up a hobby. Do something for you that will improve your future.