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Another sad post: Hoping this is my last one for a while
Sorry for ANOTHER sad post about what's going on with me. I truly hope that I'm not being annoying/over sharing/whatever with you ladies....
I got a call on Friday from my doctor with the results of the testing they did on the tissue. First of all, I didn't think that I even ok'd the testing in the first place because I didn't think it was necessary...
Anyway....Dr told me that the baby only had one X chromosome, and that was the reason why the pregnancy ended. She said it's called Turner Syndrome...so I googled...
And apparently this only happens to females, meaning that we would have had a little girl.
I'm heartbroken all over again...I didn't want to know if it was a boy or a girl because I thought that would just hurt too much. But then I googled just to see what Turner Syndrome is, and found that piece of info out.
I'm glad that we found out that this is a common reason for m/c and that it wasn't a genetic issue it was just an issue with that particular egg/sperm. So there's nothing wrong with either of us, we should be able to have a heathly child one day, and we just had "bad" luck with this pregnancy. I guess that's our silver lining...just trying to focus on that part right now.
Thank you all for being so kind to me during these past few weeks. I don't know what I'd do without you ladies!
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron 
Re: Another sad post: Hoping this is my last one for a while
Sorry again to hear, but like you said on the bright side it's good to know that it's not a genetic issue.
If it makes you feel any better, both ladies I know that had miscarriages both have completely healthy children now. My BM's little sister had a miscarriage and then 2 healthy little girls. A coworker of mine actually had a LOT of problems, from what I hear (I didn't work there when she was having the issues). Apparently she had several miscarriages, and one where it was apparently some sort of tumor instead of an actual fetus, but apparently shows as if she was pregnant? Not sure of all the details on that, but I guess after that incident she had to wait another year before trying to conceive. Anyways, the point I am getting to is that she now has a little boy and is about 6 months pregnant with a little girl!
Like you said, all you can do in a sad situation is focus on those silver linings...keep your chin up, things will get better!
Sometimes I think the internet and Google are the worst inventions, and can be our enemy!
I am glad that you are looking on the positive side, I can't imagine how difficult this has been for you. Just keep yourself focused on the future and remain positive, and one day you'll have a healthy child. *Hugs*
I'm so sorry you're having to go through this
I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it is for you and your husband.
Maybe if you and your husband name your angel baby (since you know she's a she) maybe it'll help give you closure.
I'm glad you're able to hang on to the silver lining, especially in the midst of such devestation. Good luck in the future, and I hear the TTCAL boards on TB are super supportive.
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I considered naming our angel baby...but I don't know how I feel about it. I go back and forth in my head.
The TTCAL board is great. Lots of lovely ladies over there and they've been very kind and supportive.
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
I'm so sorry Christine. I hope that a healthy baby will be in your future soon.
My mom had a miscarriage with her first pregnancy. She was so devastated that she didn't want to try again. It took her a couple years and alot of pushing from family and friends before she decided to try again. But once she was ready, she got me and my brother out of it
You'll be ok, even if it takes some time. I think you've been incredibly brave and positive considering what you're going through. And don't hesitate to share how you're feeling with us. That's what we're here for, and you are NOT at all being annoying or oversharing... promise!
AuroroasEnvy- I think stories like that are the only thing keeping me going right now, so thank you.
Vineyard- Damn google, way too much info on there! Thanks for the hugs
underwne- Thank you
Mona-Thank you, I was just feeling like maybe I'm posting too much about it here, but thank you for reminding me that I can come to you all with anything.
Melissa51212-Thank for for the prayers
Comeongetdown- I replied to your comment a few above this one
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
You are definitely not oversharing or posting too much. What you're going through is very difficult and we're here to support you whenever you need it. That's why we're here and why this board is awesome!
So not even close to an overshare! I've been thinking about you a lot lately and I'm glad you at least have some answers now. And hopefully it can take the blame off yourself some because it's nothing you could have done differently. I agree Google can sometimes be the worst thing ever because some times it gives us answers we didn't need. But the good news is you can have a healthy baby after going through this.
I think giving the angel baby a name would help instead of just baby, she has something to be called. And it will help you and others to identify and understand who she is.
Let us know if you need anything!!!!
bpphoto-thank you, I think my biggest fear is that I'm going to make other people feel sad...but you're right all of us on this board are here for each other, good or bad.
mancilla-I do feel a tiny bit of relief that we now have an answer, and it's not like "well you drank too much coffee while being pg and it's your fault" I kind of don't know how to handle the name thing...I don't want to depress H by saying "ok, lets name our baby who isn't here or we'll never meet" but I like the idea of calling the baby something...I guess maybe in time that convo with H will become easier and something we can do.
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
DH named our angel baby. We did not do testing to find out the sex, but DH really wanted a girl so he picked a girls name.
Thats good to hear it was an issue with the particular sperm and egg. Though I know it was hard to find out more information I hope it bring your more closure and more comfort when TTC again.
Aw Christine! That would be hard to deal with
I really can't imagine!
Just know, that we are here for you and you aren't oversharing or anything! Anything we can do to help!! I hope as time goes on it gets easier for you, and the silver lining being there was nothing "wrong" with you or hubby and this, hopefully, won't be an issue for you guys again!
Hope things start looking up for you soon!
I 100% agree with PPs who said this isn't an overshare. Please don't ever hesitate to share how you're feeling with us, good or bad!
I'm so sorry for your loss and for the tough news. My thoughts are with you and your DH.
leopardgurl- Its a huge relief to know that its not either one of us that caused this...for that I am very thankful and able to stop blaming myself.
heightdeprived-Thank you! They say it's extremely rare that this (baby having Turners) would happend again, so thats a good thing and it's giving me some hope.
MiniMeg- Thank you for the continued T&Ps
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
I have nothing much else to say that hasn't already been said but I just wanted to say that it definitely wasn't an over share! Share all you would like to. That's what we're here for
A woman who works with my mom carried her first daughter almost to full term when she lost her. Exactly one year later, she gave birth to a happy and healthy baby girl. There's no doubt in my mind that you'll be pregnant again in no time!
Thank you! Hopefully once we're cleared, we'll begin the TTC process again...and although I'm scared to death, I really want to be a mom so I need to let that outweigh my fear of another loss.
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
I am so so so sorry. While I have never gone through a MC myself, my SIL has gone through two back to back, and she is now carrying a healthy baby, right after her last MC.
So, I just wanted to give you some hope that you WILL have a healthy, happy baby. This is just part of your journey, hang in there!
Also, maybe the doctor in some sort of way has now given you closure, at least I hope you.
I am so hopeful for you, and will continue praying!
So I'm completely late on this post but I just had to let you know Christine that you are never oversharing with us on here. This is one of the reasons I love this site and love having you girls. This is a group of women who are all here to support you, even if half of us live half way across the country from you. We're here for you whenever you need us.
I'm so happy to hear that you are focusing on the positive aspect of all of this. Even though I can only imagine how devastated you were to get more harsh news, I hope that it also provided you with some unanswered questions. From what you are saying, I think you have a wonderful future ahead of you and there will be a beautiful child to hold someday soon. I know my mom had a miscarriage in between myself and my sister. Trust in the fact that your future holds so much more for you and your husband. You will heal from this and you will be able to have the family that you are hoping for.
Hugs and continued prayers are always being sent your way.....
MrsSheeler-I think I do have a little more closure now that I know what happened. Thank you for the hope and prayers!
littleshrink-Thank you so much
I keep reminding myself that there's a bigger plan for us and I'm hopeful that we will have a baby someday! I told my Mom the other day that I could be sad/depressed about this forever, but I don't want to live my life that way...I need to be my happy/silly self and although I'll never forget what happened and I'll have moments where all I can do is cry, I will make it through this!
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
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Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron