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Marriage in Trouble - Please Advice

Wify2005Wify2005
in Relationships
I have been married for 7yrs. and been w/my H for 15yrs. We have 2 kids together and I love him dearly. However, we have a huge communications issue. My H never wants to put any effort to discuss our marriage when it comes to fixing any issues or discuss some of the disagreements we have a long the way. He ignores me for days if I am upset at him and we have a problem we need to discuss. For years, I have been the only one that sat us down to hash things over. Now, I am frustrated and need his involvement to grow our marriage. But he not doing it no matter how many times I told him about how hurtful that is.  For example, our last summer vocation, we made a deal that he can do whatever he wants for first 1 week, but that he should spend time with me for the last week of our voc. Well, when the last week came, he was agitated and almost didn't want to be in the same room. I was 9month pregnant at the time. So I got upset one evening and told him how disappointed I was with him to treat me that way for what suppose to be my week. He saw that I was very down the next day, but he totally ignored me for 8 days. He did not even say a word to me to comfort me. I finally spoke to him, and his answer was that he was not interested in talking to me and to leave him alone. I was crying hysterically. He looked at me and walked away. Now, we got past that. However, he still treats me the same way whenever we have issues. He totally ignores me and would never want to discuss what is bothering me. He pretends like nothing is wrong. For the last 4 nights, we slept in the same bed, but never once we touched each other so he knows something is wrong, and he would never communicate with me and ask me what the matter is with me or us. I am so tired of being the only one to discuss our issues. Shouldn't he care to want to fix things with me? I am frustrated and want walk out the door sometimes. Please advice.. Thanks.
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