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Ever Been So Stressed In Life?..
I'm to the point where I just don't know what to do anymore.
My FI broke up with me, we just called off the wedding.
I have to move in to my parents house, as I do not have the funds to get my own place yet.
Work is going terrible, I've been so stressed out with life that I have been leaving early a lot, and calling in, which is not like me.
I don't really have any extra money to see a therapist. I have gone in the past before.
My past relationship really wiped out my funds, as I was paying all the bills. I'm left with $35.00 in my account..
I'm not looking for a pity party or anything don't get me wrong. I've just always found a way in life, and now I have nothing.
Re: Ever Been So Stressed In Life?..
When life seems like it is the hardest to deal with always remember one thing. Life is like climbing a mountain. There will always be tough climbs to over come. But with those tough climbs comes easy valleys. You'll find your easy valley and recover. Confind in your family and close friends for help and shoulders to cry on. Believe it or not this is the time you'll find your true friends the ones that will listen to your problems and not try to fix them. It's better to have friends that listen that ones that tell you what to do.
Thats my honest opinion I hope you soldier on and wish you the best of luck.
It just feels like I'm constantly messing up in every relationship. I used to be so good with money, but was so into my last relationship, that I felt I needed to be an equal when it came to who payed the bills. Now I can't even afford gas now.
All the women at work seem to hate me.
I have been taking to much time off.
I've never felt this way in life, but everything is adding up.
My family hated my ex-FI, so talking to them about it is pointless. I don't have any friends up here. The only friend I have is my ex-FI neice...
Wait, so on top of his inappropriate relationships with other women and his controlling ways, he was mooching off you financially?
I know things are difficult right now, but you really are going to be so much better off without him.
He wasn't mooching. He wanted someone who could pay half of everything. I don't make a lot at my job at all, and he makes a decent amount of money. He has this stupid electric heater for the winter, and the electric bill is $1,000 a month.
I try to pay half, but I just couldn't afford it! I sold jewelry, clothes, etc. Now I have nothing left. My fault, not his.
I do have family, they do not live around here. I have to move.
Call MUD all you want. Karma is a b*tch. I'm asking the ladies on this board advice, not you. Who clearly does not care about anybody else who has issues in life.
Definitely. In times of loss, we see the most growth in ourselves. Hang in there, it will get better. And I would add therapy to the list of things you budget for when you do have money for it.
Thank you dog love. I'm glad I have my dog. And it's his b-day today. :-)
I went to therapy a little over a year ago, and it cost me $30.00 a session, which is not bad. It's so hard to find a good therapist.
That's funky.
Find somebody you can stay with and go there and live there; don't live alone.
And a therapist is a good idea --- how about a social worker employed by your town? Towns usually have them; you might try there also -- or try a crisis team at your local hospital; I know the services of crisis people are free.
This!
And there's definitely no way an electric bill is $1,000 a month in the winter. I had oil heat at a house I used to live in and I never paid a $1,000 a month, oil is way more expensive than gas heat.
Um, no loving partner would make you pay for half of everything when you clearly can't afford it. Besides running an overpriced heater being a stupid money decision, he runs the heater and then you are supposed to pay for half?
Also, who pays that much for ONE monthly expense which can easily be gotten for cheaper?
Seriously, dude was overall not good for you. If you have decent parents they will be much better to live with for the time being, and by moving you can find new, better work while living without rent.
Besides, if they all hate him they'll be great to talk to when the "angry" phase of grieving hits.
We run two electric heaters because we have cathedral ceilings in our main rooms and they're waaaay too cold - and it only cost us an extra $60 a month. And I live in one of the most expensive areas of the country. No way the electric bill was $1000, unless you lived in a 20,000 sq foot mansion.
MUD.