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Applying for Jobs

Hi Military Nesties,

 I posted a few times on The Knot's military brides board back when I was engaged, so I thought this might be a good place to get some advice from other military spouses.

 I got married a few months after my graduation, and since then I've been hoping to find work in my field here by DH's duty station (Ft Campbell.) That hasn't worked out, so I'm now applying for jobs in other cities with bases nearby. I'm a genetic counselor, and a great looking position has just opened up at Walter Reed Medical Center.

My question is, do I mention that I'm an Army spouse in my cover letter? The spouse preference only applies to federal jobs within commuting distance of the service member's current duty station, so it wouldn't apply in this situation. However, the "counseling" part of a genetic counselor's job involves building rapport, demonstrating empathy, and providing psychological support and social resources as needed. So, in a place where many of the patients are military, it might be considered an advantage to have a personal understanding of that lifestyle. On the other hand, since the spouse preference doesn't apply, would it be over-sharing to put it in the cover letter? It's definitely not the kind of thing I would share with a typical job...

Does anyone have any advice on this? I'd obviously like to do whatever is most likely to get me this job! Thanks :)

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Re: Applying for Jobs

  • I wouldn't put it in your cover letter.  However, I would mention it if you get an interview. 
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  • I agree, I would not put it on the cover letter, my experience is it goes against you at first because they feel you will only be there for a short amount of time and they want long term employees. But try to mention it a little because it works for you when you dont need any benefits. If you ever get based in Florida forget it though, just FYI dont EVER mention it, its against the law for them to ask but if it gets to that point try not to even mention your even married lol or that he is involved with the military. Sorry coming from someone who has had a horrible experience in Florida AFB's!!!
  • imageSarahP787:

    Hi Military Nesties,

     I posted a few times on The Knot's military brides board back when I was engaged, so I thought this might be a good place to get some advice from other military spouses.

     I got married a few months after my graduation, and since then I've been hoping to find work in my field here by DH's duty station (Ft Campbell.) That hasn't worked out, so I'm now applying for jobs in other cities with bases nearby. I'm a genetic counselor, and a great looking position has just opened up at Walter Reed Medical Center.

    My question is, do I mention that I'm an Army spouse in my cover letter? The spouse preference only applies to federal jobs within commuting distance of the service member's current duty station, so it wouldn't apply in this situation. However, the "counseling" part of a genetic counselor's job involves building rapport, demonstrating empathy, and providing psychological support and social resources as needed. So, in a place where many of the patients are military, it might be considered an advantage to have a personal understanding of that lifestyle. On the other hand, since the spouse preference doesn't apply, would it be over-sharing to put it in the cover letter? It's definitely not the kind of thing I would share with a typical job...

    Does anyone have any advice on this? I'd obviously like to do whatever is most likely to get me this job! Thanks :)

    Whenever I read a cover letter from someone that did this, it automatically turned me off. Some had great qualifications for a professional position but the idea that  marital status belonged in the cover letter just made a bad impression. I realize you're not doing this but you wouldn't believe the amount of highly educated women applying for a job that write about their husband's rank in their cover letter. If you're near a base, the people screening the resumes realize that many applicants are military spouses so if anything it lumps you in a pile rather than sets you above.

    Instead, write something along the lines of "my knowledge of and experience with the military culture and lifestyle makes me a good fit", etc

  • I think it depends on the context. I have included that I'm a military spouse in a cover letter, but only to explain gaps in my employment, and why I'm looking for a job in that city. I think sometimes if you're looking for a job in Kansas (as I was) and the return address on your resume says Texas, or California, people think you're not serious about taking the job. (Who would move to Kansas from California? Me. That's who.)

    So yes, to say "I am 100% serious about moving here and you're not wasting your time talking to me," it's cool to slip in that you're a spouse. In your situation, you could include that you have a strong knowledge of the military and the experiences of its members because of your personal relationships...up to you if you want to say because of your husband specifically. 

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