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jwoftexas
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Roommates
I'm recently engaged and moving in with the FI in May. I've never lived with a guy before so it's going to be an adjustment. However, he has a roommate who isn't moving out until the end of this year. I'm not sure if the roommate even realizes his time is up (long story).
Anyway, I'm just looking for advice on how others handled the roommate?
Re: Roommates
When I first moved in with my then FI he also had a roommate. My suggestion is to let him know exactly how you feel about having a roommate and to make it very clear to the roommate that realizes that he will need to start looking for a new place to live. I've seen relationships and friendships ruined because a couple is living with a roommate. Your FI will feel the need to take a side in any argument and it may not always be yours. I found that living with a roommate put a lot of extra stress especially right before the wedding. Now don't get me wrong, I now consider the former roommate to be one of my very good friends but it was definitely not the easiest living situation.
Hi jwoftexas,
You have taken the best step in this situation which is clearly stating your concerns with your FI and the fact that he is having this conversation with the roommate is also positive. Living with someone is always an excercise in adjusting and having a third party there as well complicates things. However if you and the FI are working as a team, if you communicate clearly, I don't think you will have too much trouble. Good luck!
I think you have to talk with you fianc? first about putting rules, and then talk with the roommate to let him know about this process and how to live together in peace. Good luck!