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I feel this same way as well. I think for me it all doesn't seem too real yet. As I am getting further along, feeling sicker every day, ; ) it's all becoming more real. I belive that as soon as you see baby at your appt this week, it will feel more real and you will be so in love! : ) Good luck at your appointment!!!
After awhile, you just want to be with the one who makes you laugh. - Mr. Big
After awhile, you just want to be with the one who makes you laugh. - Mr. Big
You're not a bad mom. Especially so early on, before you have a bump or see an ultrasound, it's such an abstract concept that there's a little baby growing in you. It's hard to wrap your head around that anything is really different (besides m/s!). At least, it was for me. So don't feel bad. I think it's also just natural to guard your heart a bit in case something goes wrong, but try to enjoy it as it goes. It's still kind of surreal when I look at L, it's hard to believe she was the little baby in my belly and the newborn I held for the first time just a few months ago. Motherhood is weird.
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It's different for everyone, but if you're up for it, do it! My drive was pretty low throughout pregnancy, and still is. Later in pregnancy I had a hard time separating myself mentally from the baby in my belly and was always paranoid she'd kick or something during sex. I'd say we had it about every other week throughout pregnancy, which was nice. I wanted to be one of those women that loved pregnancy sex, but I wasn't. It did feel good towards the end, though.
There's really nothing to be nervous about, though. Just watch out for any spotting in the day or so afterwards. That's the only thing to really be nervous about. Some women spot a little afterwards, some don't.
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I felt like that for a little while. As cheesy and dumb as it sounds, I know that my feelings were like that because I was afraid and trying to protect my heart in case I had a m/c. You're not a horrible person at all. ((hug))
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I didn't feel a strong connection for a very long time. Longer than most ladies here I think. It isn't that I didn't love him, but I felt like the connection was more gradual, even after he was born. During pregnancy picking out a name, buying clothes, and decorating the room helped make it seem more real to me. After he was born learning his preferences and how to soothe him and meet his needs helped us bond even better.
To make you feel my love.
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Congrats to both my TTC buddies, Amberley18 and sb2006 on their beautiful babies!
We never transitioned to fast flow nipples, medium is as far as we've gotten. I started offering a sippy of water right around 7 months. If you get a no-spill sippy they still have to bite and suck to get anything to come out, so I don't think it's stupid to try a sippy.
I just read somewhere that if you are BF you should try to keep them on level 1 as long as possible. I don't know about transitioning to a sippy cup though.
To make you feel my love.
L napped a lot in her swing early on, but never for more than an hour or so. I tried to hold her more than have her nap in the swing. Make sure his head is turned different ways so it's not always resting on the same side. Flat heads usually develop from spending the majority of their time in a carrier, like going from bassinet to swing to carseat to swing to bassinet. Just make sure you're holding him throughout the day. Do you have a carrier that he could nap in while you do stuff around the house?
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We still use slow flow. I like Waterfall's idea of using one of those no leak sippies.
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This was meant to quote Madeline, sorrry.
It took me a long time to be invested in my pregnancy and feel a connection with our baby. I think it is the PGAL brain and in a way, I was trying to protect myself from further heartbreak.
Honestly though, I didn't have the instant "OMGGGGGG, I am in love with this tiny human!!!" when she was first born. I was in a daze. It was like I needed a couple of days to really process that everything was going to be different, figure out my crazy hormones and heal physically. I cried when she was born because I was in awe. I finally had my child in my arms and due to my PGAL brain, it was almost a surprise that nothing had gone terribly wrong.
That first week, I cried to my H because I felt like a terrible mother. I didn't know how to comfort her and he did. I couldn't tell why she was crying, and he could. I even told him that he was a better mother than I.
We got into the hang of things, and I am more in love than ever with my sweet girl.
After 31 cycles and two losses, we've been blessed with a healthy baby girl!
Congrats to both of my amazing TTC Buddies, tdmd09 and sb2006!!
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After 31 cycles and two losses, we've been blessed with a healthy baby girl!
Congrats to both of my amazing TTC Buddies, tdmd09 and sb2006!!
Life of Amberley
After 31 cycles and two losses, we've been blessed with a healthy baby girl!
Congrats to both of my amazing TTC Buddies, tdmd09 and sb2006!!
Life of Amberley
I had a very hard time being excited until I saw the baby for the first time, which was at 13 weeks. I didn't hear a heartbeat before that, and I didn't feel any different, so it was hard to believe.
One of the best pieces of advice that was given to me in life, but particularly about pregnancy is to not put your emotions on a timeline and don't compare your emotions to other people. It hits people differently. That's ok.
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He was kind of weirded out by it all in the begining. He made the comment that it would be weird having sex when there is a baby in there. However, after this morning, I guess he is whistling a different tune after 6 weeks or so of no action. Ha! I think just getting the first time over with was a good thing.
After awhile, you just want to be with the one who makes you laugh. - Mr. Big
Good to know, Thanks!
I think actually hearing that would freak me out a little as well. ; )
After awhile, you just want to be with the one who makes you laugh. - Mr. Big
Madeline- It just didn't feel real to me until my 9 week u/s and when I saw the baby moving I broke down crying because it was like woah it is in there and it is real! But even after that until I could feel her moving regularly I still didn't really connect and then after I had her it took a coupke weeks to really feel like yeah this is MY daughter.
Grey-We stopped at medium flow nipples and I introduced a sippy at 5 months but she didn't start using it regularly until 7 months. We started with a no spill soft nipple sippy though. It is Nuk and has handles which she loves.
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I say normal. I was excited to be pregnant, but I just felt gross all the time. Even after the first u/s, I was excited, but didn't feel a huge bond since it still didn't feel real. Some days I feel super attached, and others I just feel big. Don't stress, you're a good momma
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Like all the PGAL PP, I sort of deliberately didn't connect. I didn't want to get my hopes up until 2nd tri. Now, even though I've had umpteen million u/s and I feel him moving every day, I still feel like my connection isn't what it should be. I am mostly scared and sad. I am scared that I won't be able to handle being a mom, especially at first, and I am sad that this time in our lives hasn't been and isn't going to be what I'd hoped. I am trying to grieve that and to not think about what I "should" be feeling. Like MRads said, I'm just trying to let my emotions be what they are.
I had no drive in 1st tri because I was tired and icky feeling. Now I have plenty of drive but H has been weird about it since I started showing. We've only done it twice since I've been KU.
From what I can tell, there's no "normal" during pregnancy. Some people seem to be doing it more, some less, sometimes partners are on the same page about how it affects them and sometimes they aren't.
I am in an anxious lull right now. My next appt. isn't until next week, and I am nervous. I am almost positive that I felt movement last week. (I know it was extremely early.) I haven't felt anything since and my m/s is fading (thank goodness!). Other than being exhausted, I feel almost normal. I am thankful, but I feel silly that it is making me nervous.
Did anyone else feel this way at the beginning of 2nd tri? Is there any way to stop being so crazy?
Yup. It was like I was just floating along - not feeling sick, but not feeling pregnant. It was kind of boring lol! I wouldn't be surprised if you felt a bit of movement. I felt a couple little pokes between 13 and 17 weeks before I started feeling obvious movement. Hang in there!
A is almost 10 months and on level 2 nipples. Many babies, especially one's that are BF, never go past level 1 nipples. We switched when it started taking forever for her to finish a bottle and she would collapse the nipple.
You can definitely try a sippy cup. We introduced one around 6 months when we started solids. Like I said, many BF babies never go past level 1 nipples, but they all eventually drink out of a cup. We tried the Nuby one, but A didn't really like it. She does much better drinking out of a regular cup or a straw cup. We actually like the cheapo Take n' Toss straw cups. She still has issues with holding the cup herself, but does great drinking out of a straw!