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its complicated
i know its wrong, but this guy makes me feel so happy , i get along with him in so many ways and i laugh from within when i get the chance to be with him, he is all i ever wanted in a man, his personality, his charm , his sense of humor and when i see him my heart just drops , you know that feeling, but his married. he says his happy with his wife so why be with me, am i so stupid not wanting to believe that he is just using me ,why is he cheating if his happy, i know his not attracted to his wife the way he is with me and i know his feelings are stronger for me but i know he will never leave his kids. how can i let go ...
Re: its complicated
It is not complicated, he is married and has children. He has told you he will not leave, not that I would believe him if he said otherwise. Stop wasting your time on a fantasy man that does not exist. His wife gets the real him you get to have a fantasy and you get to be the light hearted other woman without any responsibilities or kids to take after. You're probably like his wife pre-marriage or kids. As soon as you get sick of the bubble your living in and talk about real things he'll move on to the next girl.
FWIW you are being stupid, do you really believe he isn't attracted to his wife just because he is with you? Cheating is not about looks, many men with hot wives cheat b/c they are scum. Tiger Woods? Do yourself a favor and stop assuming things. He could have a super hot wife that he's sleeping with everyday, that has nothing to do with what you are doing. He's a liar and scum, move on and figure out why you are ok with this. Oh and get STD testing.
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Agreed.
Have higher standards for yourself than to be some man's mistress.
He doesn't love you, he doesn't think you are special and lovely. He is just bored with his life and looking for an outlet. I know this is crude, but you are probably nothing more than a warm hole for him to stick is d*ck into. That is all.
You are probably not the first person he cheated with and won't be the last. You are just a number, a conquest, a prize.
Cut off all contact and talk to a professional about how you got yourself into this situation.
it will not come to a good end.
He's filling a void that you have; it could be you're lonely, you have low self esteem, you like the thrill of it all; the "nobody knows but me" syndrome.
And you probably got the same old line from him; these guys looking for a thing on the side are all alike. Really, all you are is a quick POA.
Today, break it off with him -- and then go see a counselor to figure out why you did this. THAT is how you let go.
lol @ the 'other woman' coming onto a forum filled with married women expecting some sort of sympathy for her in this situation.
OP - what do you expect any of us to say? Do you expect us to say that what you are doing is perfectly ok and justified? Do you think we are somehow going to absolve you of any responsibility of carrying on an affair with a married man?
When you found out that he was married, you didn't break it off and instead have chosen to carry on with this guy, so that makes you equally a piece of garbage in my eyes...you should be ashamed of yourself for being this low....
SURE you get along "in so many ways"!!! He is married; you are not living with him and you are not legally married to him. There is no day to day involvement with him.
"When you're in love with a married man, you don't have to wash his funky underwear." So said a comedianne singer back in the day and it's true still.
Women who have affairs with married men do not have responsibility. The guy goes home to his wife every night. Perfect for the woman who is having an affair with him.
Grow up and get some responsibility. How would you feel if this was your H having the affair?
sorry but you are nothing special to him, no matter what he has led you to believe!
A guy who cheats on his wife is everything you ever wanted in a man? LOL!
He sucks, and you are letting him hurt you and being complicit in hurting his wife. Nothing complicated about this situation at all.
Try to have some standards, okay?
well if you decide to stop then he will find someone else. You should just leave him alone. Just because he's cheating doesn't mean he's happy. He's probably using it as a past time for him. Put yourself in his wife shoes how would you feel. Its not going to be easy letting go its just something you have to do.
good luck
Perfectly said.
Girl you need to get out of that quick. Any man with any kind of respect for women would not be cheating on his wife. and would not be leading you on into thinking that he "might someday" have something with you. Girl cut it off. It might hurt once you do but you are going to gain so much more .
ways and i laugh from within when i get the chance to be with him, he is all i ever wanted in a man, his personality, his charm , his sense of humor and when i see him my heart just drops , you know that feeling, but his married. he says his happy with his wife so why be with me.
Exactly. He aint even yours. He's all you ever wanted in a man. Get over it. He is happy with someone else.
And if he has the morals (or lack-there-of) to cheat on his wife and kids, what makes you think he wouldn't do that to you?