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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Adult ADHD?
Has anyone been married to a partner who was adult ADHD? My husband and I have been struggling for some time. He loves me but there is a clear disconnect between what he says he?s going to do and does. It is all very confusing. He has an appointment later this month to get a professional opinion. If it is ADHD I have no idea what to do this is all very new to me. If it?s not ADHD I don?t think I can continue living like this. I won?t go into detail but it?s very difficult. Anyways I thought I post a message to get other perspectives and experiences. Please share!
Re: Adult ADHD?
Isn't there medication for ADD and I'm guessing ADHD?
My husband doesn't have ADHD but he is on the autistic spectrum. I love him so much and some of his quirks as he does mine, but some things he does can drive me crazy once in a while. For instance, constantly pacing around our home or always fidgeting when we're out eating or just not responding to change well as well as having a hard time seeing things from other people's point of view. He is going to see an autism therapist soon and he said I could come along if I want so I could learn more about autism, which I think could really help us.
We've speculated though, that my mom has ADD. She cannot sit through a movie, often can't focus on one thought, always needs to be doing something. She literally went out shopping in the middle of Hurricane Sandy (I mean, who does that?!????)...Because of her ADD, whenever I was with her I felt sleep deprived because she'd often have some noise going on at 2 am whether it was the TV or her vacuuming the entire house. I've always had a hard time being around her and it's always hard when the person does not want to seek any treatment.
The thing about your husband is that he's trying to get the help he needs. Try to be patient with him and appreciate that he's making the effort. Try to hang in there for a little bit longer...this is something you'll both have to work at.
Also, try to read up on ADHD. Being informed really helps and instead of trying to (for a lack of a better phrase) smack the ADHD out of your husband, try to make his condition work. With my husband's fidgeting, people would always tell him to just stop it. I admit I still sometimes do that. But I also suggested that when he needs to fidget, to just be more discreet about it...sadly, I think he's lost many job opportunities because of this, as possible employers would mistakenly think he has ADD and then not want to hire him. Good luck, it's not easy but getting through it can be really worth it.