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help!
hey everyone, I need some advice. I have been asking my friends, but of course they will agree with me, so I need some objective advice.
I have been with my partner for about a year and a half. We never really had "a lot" of sex, so it's not like its a after-the-Honeymoon type thing. Anyway, I've only been getting sex about once a month for the past year or so. And I have to *** and complain just to get that it seems. It seems like she doesn't want it, like doesn't CRAVE it the way I do. So I'm becoming resentful of her, because I need to feel wanted by her.
Ive told her before what I need, and that I can't keep going on like this. I love her, but at this point the relationship cant continue like this! Its selfish of her.
ok. let me know what you all think.
Re: help!
I don't think this is an a problem with her being selfish necessarily. It really just sounds like you two aren't compatible in that department. That said, it's time to move on...
Move on.
It is possible the relationship also could be ending.
Find yourself a girlfriend who is sexually compatible with you.
If you told her what you needed, and she still hasn't changed then she isn't sexually right for you. I know people say sex isn't everything, but it does help building a bond, for guys and girls.
Perhaps you can talk to her, see why she only wants it once a month? I mean maybe something traumatic happened in the past? I don't know how old you two are.
Just remember that a closed mouth doesn't get fed. Meaning you got to open your mouth and try to figure out what is happening, don't just sit there and let it fester and then suddenly you leave and she is wondering what the hell happened. Communication.
That seemed rather uncalled for.
Uncalled for? Really? Does bitching and complaining turn you on? It doesn't seem like OP has very good communication going on if that's how he tries to get sex.
If I was only getting laid 12 times a year, I'd be bitching and complaining too.
OP, you're not naturally compatible in this area and she doesn't want to change that so move on.
Open a conversation with her. Be gentle, put no pressure-pressure is hard and unsexy-and ask her for what she wants, would change, and would try. Make it a safe space. Be prepared for possible ego hits.
If you are incompatible, move on. No harm no foul.