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age

is 5 years difference in age when the guy is younger a problem, ie. 25 and 30?

Re: age

  • Age alone?  No.  But if you're at different points in your life, want different things, then yeah, it could be a problem.
  • Call me superficial, but I would not like to be 5 years older than MH.

    For someone else, I don't think 5 years is a big deal. 

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  • imageNancyMmom:
    is 5 years difference in age when the guy is younger a problem, ie. 25 and 30?

     

    If you actually have ask strangers on the internet if something innocuous is "a problem", then, yes, it is, and you need to move on with your life and find somebody that you don't have to question such stupid things with.

    Signed, Somebody who's "Dad" is 5 years younger than her Mom, and married her when he was 25 and she already had 2 kids anyway.


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  • Only when one of them is a minor :)

     Seriously though no that's not a huge age difference. But like all couples, you need to be on the same page in life.

  • Not for me. I'm 32, H is 28. In fact, every relationship I've had with someone younger have been much healthier than the ones I've had with those the same age or older. But that's just my experience.
  • I think the real question here is - is this a problem for YOU?
  • 5 years, no.

    I do not recommend or advocate a difference of more than 10 years.

    I know of a couple where the wife is 15 years older than her H. He was always immature and still is, even now, 11 years into their marriage. He is now 40 years of age.
  • H is three years younger than me. I figure, since women have longer life expectancies, this way hopefully we'll die around the same time. :) I think the older you are, the less an age difference matters. 
  • Nah. Been there, did that, was quite fun, actually. Nobody else cared either, though I wouldn't have listened if they did.
  • I'm 9 years older, and he's the best thing that ever happened to me!
  • My mom is 5 years older than my dad, I think they were 29 and 24 when they got married almost 35 years ago.  It's never seemed like a problem to me.  
  • Nope.  My parents have exactly this age difference (25 and 30 were the ages they were when they had me), as do the parents of a close friend of mine.  No one seems the slightest bit unhappy with it.
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  • The only problem that there could be would be a difference in maturity. I think usually it's the other way around where the man is older, because isn't it that men mature slower than women? 

     If the two have the same maturity level and, as Jemma said, are on the same page, then it shouldn't be a problem. 

  • No, not simply because one is 5 years older than the other.  There are other factors that can come into play, such as different maturity levels, different goals in immediate future, different expectations about of each other. 

     This is  a question that only you can answer.

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  • the only time I see it as a problem is when one of the 2 has a problem with it. Other wise it is no one elses business.

    DH is 7 yrs younger than me but we met when I was 39, so his 32 wasnt an issue.

  • Not at all--if you want the same things in life.
  • nope, my mom is 8 years older than my step dad.
  • It is only a problem if you see it as a problem. I know a couple who are 30 years apart (yes, 30), and they have now been married over 35 years. I know this situation is rare though, but if both people want it, it can def. work.
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  • I don't think so. My parents are almost 7 years a part in age. My mom was 27 when she got married to my dad and he was a few months away from being 21. They've been together 20 years.
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