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MIL as REA

My husband and I are currently living with his mother while we search for a place of our own. We are using her as our Agent which I originally thought was a good idea. But now I'm not so sure. She doesn't want us to move out because we are helping financially while living there so I don't feel like she is putting in the effort of a normal REA. I almost feel taken advantage of. Since we've never searched for a house before I'm not really sure the normal procedures for a REA. What is happening now is, I am looking online and finding places we might like and giving her the info then she shows us. But that's where it ends. I remember looking for a house with my parents in my teens and I felt like their agent did a lot more for them but maybe times have changed? Is a REA suppose to be looking and suggesting for us? Or do I keep looking for myself and passing the info along?

Re: MIL as REA

  • Kind of in a similar situation. My husband and I are using my aunt as our REA. I sent her a ton of houses that we were interested in and told her our max price and what we wanted to have vs what we must have so she would have a good basis as to what to

  • I knew working with family was not ideal but my husband would feel guilty not using her so she could get the commission and I agreed to it. She did sign us up for an email listing within her company that gives us houses available in the price range and&nb
  • My first REA did what you MIL does.  I would send him a list of the ones that I like and he would take me to see them.  I switched REA's because I was not happy with that.  My second REA sent me a list of houses that fit what I wanted and I
  • OP, if you are not happy with the job she is doing, then you guys need to find yourself a new agent. Does not matter if she is family - she should be treated like anyone else you would hire to do a job. Would you stick with a stranger if they were doin

  • One other thing I should add - my H & I had 2 realtors that we worked with initially when we were looking. One was forced on us from my IL's but he tried to royally screw us, so we cut him off. The other one, we met during an open house tour and initi
  • When we bought our house this past year, we went with the REA DH's mom works for. She's the secretary for two REAs that work together. His mom set up the search for us after he told her price, acreage, etc. Initiatlly there are quite a few on that list
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