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Attendance@wedding-not on speaking terms

My cousin is getting married. My mother is invited. I have not seen/spoken to my mother in over a year. If I were to go and she was there, I'm positive she would make a scene. I do not want my cousin's wedding day to be ruined because of my mother, or focused on this issue rather than enjoy their big day. Same goes for the bridal shower. I'm in a lose-lose scenario: if I don't go, I'll continue to be bad-mouthed, if I do go there will surely be a scene. I'm thinking I should send a really nice gift to the couple and then call my cousin explaining the scenario when we receive the invite and send a nice wedding card with $. Thoughts?
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Re: Attendance@wedding-not on speaking terms

  • Go. If she makes a scene, that's on her. Just go, enjoy yourself, and ignore her. Don't allow yourself to be put in a situation where you're alone with her, or anything like that.
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    Go. If she makes a scene, that's on her. Just go, enjoy yourself, and ignore her. Don't allow yourself to be put in a s
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  • If you do go to the wedding, can you maybe designate another person who will be there (that is not involved with the wedding at all) that could possibly step in if your mother decides to get out of control? And by this, I mean more along the lines of y

  • Do you know what your cousin would want? Have you spoken to her?
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  • By a "scene" it'll be her crying because I won't react to her and my mom and sis will commiserate to others (mother of the groom) on how awful I am, most likely. I just don't want anything to go bad for my cousin on his big day. We were close as kids but,
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  • Based on your last comment, I'd bow out and not go. Explain to the cousin that you are really happy for him and want his day to be great - your family is a bit dramatic right now and you just feel it would be best if you didn't attend so as to prevent

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  • Ugh.  Well, I say go to the shower.  If your mom is there and if she starts to act up, I'd actually pull her aside and say "stop being selfish.  This event isn't about  you or me.  If you continue to act like this, then it will

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