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Wedding Thank Yous
So, I know TECHNICALLY I have a year...but....one of my (unmarried so maybe she doesn't know that?) friends was upset she just got a thank you from a july wedding.
What are your thoughts? Are yours done? How long did it take you? Did you split the list 50-50 with H? Did he do his fam and you did yours (this would mean he has to do way more for us)? Did you just say ugh I have better handwritting and do them all yourself? Did you sign them Joe and Jane Smith? did you sign your name and he signed his name?
We wanted our picture on them, and our pics didn't come in til Xmas. So cards were ordered in Jan, recieved first week of Feb (so I know...I'm still lazy) but...half of them are done. Is this ok? (I've been signing them Linnae & and then I leave space for him to write his whole name. On his he wrote Carl & and I write my whole name..) I only assigned him his close fam and friends b/c it is way faster for me to do the randoms...
Re: Wedding Thank Yous
I prefer to get a Thank you within 2-3 months. But honestly, I'm just happy to get anything.
I did all the thank yous, because it was just easier then pushing H to help. I did the majority of them during Huricane Sandy with H's helmet light on my head and a big bottle of wine. I finished the rest that weekend. I already got the thank you cards before the wedding and they were fall themed, so I wanted to get them out ASAP and before Christmas cards. I signed them for both of us.
Ours were out just before Christmas cards. H & I divided them up some but I did do most of them.
FYI - If you are going by etiquette with your one year thing - it's one year for a gift from the wedding and thank yous within 2 months from the wedding. Or 2 weeks from receipt of gift past that two month window. I don't think most people care though, as long as they get a thank you.
Our TYs went out around 3 months after our wedding. I tried to get them done before 3 months, but life was just too busy.
I did a little more than half, DH did the rest (I did my family and mutual friends, he did his family). They were signed Love, Nicole and Chris by the person who wrote that TY (I did not take DH's last name, so they were not signed Mrs and Mrs HLastName...additionally, the return address was My Last Name - DH Last Name I was trying to drive home the point that I didn't change my name but people still send stuff to me as Mrs DH Last Name, trying hard to not get pissed off about this!)
I agree with PPs, etiquette says that wedding TYs should go out by 3 months. Someone technically has 1 year to give you a wedding gift. Late is better than never, and I think most people would just like to receive a thank you note late rather than never.
thanks! I don't feel as bad now. They are all going our by friday! really! haha
(my biggest problem was getting the thank yous with our picture...and since i didn't even get them til after the 3 mo mark....i didn't worry too much. They're already late, what's another month, right? haha)
thanks ladies!
I also had to wait for our thank you cards from our photographer but was still able to get them all out around 3 months after the wedding, there may have been a couple that went later and i didnt send our vendors thank you's until after that, as soon as i get my wedding video i will send them a thank you as well!
I did them all myself, if i waited for H they would never go out, granted i wasnt working at the time and had time to do them, but it took a while since i personalized them per each guest depending on the relationship etc.
I signed each of them Joe & Maria New last name!
We got our photos about 6 weeks after the wedding and immediately ordered thank yous, they came in under a week. We could have had them out before the 2 month mark, but I dragged my feet, so we had them out around 2 and a half months. I was sure to get them out before Christmas.
I did my family and friends and H did his. He had it easier because he has a smaller family. I had to write about double what he wrote. We signed them H first name & My first name. The return address said Mr. & Mrs. J & S last name.
I know there's a lot of different beliefs on how long before it's too late. Miss Manners says 2 months I believe. Emily Post says a month after returning from your honeymoon. Putting etiquette rules aside, as long as they go out, I don't think people will care how long you wait as long as you send them out. I went to a wedding last March and I still haven't received a thank you. I also went to a wedding 2 months almost to the day before ours and haven't received one. It bothers me a lot.