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Family challenges
Hi there,
I have a great aunt and uncle on my father's side who have been really helpfull throughout my life (helped pay for my college tuition, grad school tuition, have been there during difficult times, etc). My in-laws are divorced. All of our parents live in the same state and we live out of state. We gave everyone a holiday and my aunt and uncle got Easter. So this Easter they invited my only sibling over but did not invite my parents. So it's my husband, me, my brother, and his girlfriend going to my aunt and uncle for Easter and my parents will be by themselves. This is not right to me and I'm livid on how my aunt and uncle (old school Italians that want everything at their beck and call) will not invite my parents. I feel caught between a rock and a hard place because if they had not been there during tough times and helped me financially I would be like screw you. I think I am going to tell my aunt and uncle that I am uncomfortable with my parents (my mom is also disabled and sick) being by themselves on Easter with both of their kids going to an aunt and uncles and that we will be spending time with my parents also that day now.
Thoughts?? So many thanks!
Re: Family challenges
Thank you so much for the replies!
For some reason, they do not like my mom. She can be a bit difficult. But, she is also disabled and has leukemia so it's even more insane to me that they wouldn't reach out to my parents with an invite.
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The other element here is that my aunt and uncle are my father's aunt and uncle. So I agree and then do not agree with you. It is not the same thing about my parents inviting or not inviting my in-laws over at all. How would you feel as a parent if you
There seems to be more going on here than just this Easter. This incident alone does not seem grovelling.
Have a great Holiday!
Hi STW_77, I let them walk down the aisle right after my husband's grandmother did. I guess I should have said they were part of the procession and were truly honored guests. My one and only father walked me down the aisle!
I know I
Not understanding that both of your parents come first is kind of a trip!
Can you at least explain that your time is at least 50% your husband's time and he needs to spend his time with his parents?
As for coming before your par
I'm confused. So you asked what time dinner was and she said nothing ?
And what the hell is wrong with your brother that he would abandon his parents on a holiday ?
The more you say about your aunt and uncle the more they sound
I know right!! Yes, she wouldn't give a straight answer. I asked 3 times. Basically, she was unwilling to work with me on it.
My brother is young like early 20's so I think he doesn't quite get it. My mom is sick and my dad cares for her full ti
What did your cousin do to get on their bad side.
You know, it sounds like their generosity isn't altrustic. They only help if it will help them personally.
Seriously, don't waste your time with these people. Yes, you wil
They also seem really set in their ways. A lot of older people expect the younger generation to be the one that initiate all contact.
Again, you've done all you can to pay them back for helping with your education. They best wa