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Need Help Dealing with MIL so I don't fight with hubby
I have been marrieded to my husband for 9yrs we are both very late baby boomers with small children. My MIL is approx 70 still drives, is active, travels etc...
For the past several yrs. she has been soooo extremely overly sarcastic, rude, degrading, bossy, bitter & just plain nasty over just about EVERY subject.
I talk to my husband re: her behavior he won't talk to her etc... & if I say ok I will he states ok go ahead just start a fight... Then the "MIL problem" makes my husband & I go to war.
I am at my wits end all my friends & there Moms say bite the bullet smile, set an example for your children etc... Well, I can no longer sleep this verbal sarcastic abuse from her to me is just REALLY eating at me I'm not sure if I can just keep my mouth shut much longer.
My MIL doesn't do anything for us she lives 5 minutes away & only sees her 2 grandkids on Sundays when taking them to church then to her house for brunch. But she will never just come over & visit them, babysit them, have them overnight on just about anything else... I think I'm going to tell her look you don't need to take them to church anymore & I can bite the bullet on that one & take them myself. The issue there is I wasn't raised Catholic so in her book taboo & I was told I don't have my priorities straight...
My husband is always doing things for her at times last minute dumb things like light her water heater... if she wasn't such a WITCH she has several very very nice younger neighbors in her duplex facility that can help her.
ARRRGGHHHH sooooooo feed up. Should I finally just ask her is something wrong... lately you are so overly sarcastic, nasty & rude
Both her behavior & her daughters behavior is just uncalled for around my two childern. The discuss sex, watch unappropriate tv shows, very scary movies, argue about money & discuss recent arrests such as rapes & BAD BAD things
WHAT SHOULD I DO - PLEASE HELP
Re: Need Help Dealing with MIL so I don't fight with hubby
Hmm.. I feel like there are some mixed messages and multiple issues going on here.
For example, you say your MIL doesn't do anything for you, but then say she's with your kids every Sunday. Also, she's 70, what do you expect her to do for y
Honestly, aside from the last paragraph where you say she's letting your children see and hear inappropriate things, I don't see what she's doing wrong.
She takes your kids one day a week. She's 70. It's not her responsibility to be i
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
As PP's have already said, taking your children to church and brunch every week seems plenty involved to me...but there's something strange about that whole section. I have to ask,
Who decided that your kids should be going to church? You and you
Sorry you're struggling with this and hurt by the relationship with your m-i-l.
In-law situations can be so sticky, and any type of issue between two women who care about