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Would you buy a house near family you don't talk to?
Would you buy a house two doors away from a family member who no longer talks to any part of your family? The house would be perfect, you've been looking for almost a year now while renting, your husband has always loved the block, but you risk the chance of having to see this person everyday - which i'm okay with being civil - but do you chance possible confrontation from time to time or do you wait it out in the slow market.
Re: Would you buy a house near family you don't talk to?
What is your ability to be civil to this family member?
There is no reason you cannot be "distant" neighbors where you might see each otherin passing but not interact - a hello or wave at the most.
Kill them with kindness should there be any interaction. Don't take the bait an interact in a negative way, even if they appear unfriendly.
Buy the house and live your life with dignity.
I agree with this. There's a big difference between "we just don't talk" and not talking because something happened. If it's the later, I would find another house. If it turns ugly, it's not like you can move out the next day.
Also agree, I think it'd be a great way to reconnect if that's in the cards for you and them. But if there was a falling out that no one is ready to overlook, buying a house 2 doors down would not be good for anyone. Speaking from experience, I lived 2 doors down from my grandparents. We have a great relationship (my parents too w/ them) but just the unnecessary guilt you feel every time you drive past their house whether you are coming or going you just know they are staring out the window. Then we'd have to answer "Oh I saw you leaving where are you going?" or "My your were gone all day, must be too busy to stop by"... you get the point. If it is the ideal house and there are no underlying issues, I'd say go for it. But looking ahead how is it really going to work out between you and our distant family? Maybe it won't change a thing. You never know until you try.