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Annoyed at MIL and WWYD?

Okay, I recognize in advance that this is not a huge deal, but I'm still annoyed with MIL (many of you know of our prior "episodes"). 

Baby Elf got a package in the mail from MIL that contains:  an Easter basket, a stuffed bunny, like 5 Easter-themed books, and an Easter dress.  I can get over the books, stuffed animals, whatever, but I just think it's bizarre that she would buy her a dress without asking if we already had one for her.

The dress is clearly intended for Easter as it has bunny and Easter egg appliques on it -- but no sweater to go with it (it's sleeveless), we don't have shoes that would match, etc. 

MIL sent a note saying that she wanted to make sure Baby Elf had a cute Easter dress and basket for pictures.  Um, yeah, she does -- the ones that we already got for her.  Clearly MIL is expecting to see pictures of her in the dress she sent with the basket and gifts she sent, rather than the ones that we got for her. 

I think I'll probably take a couple of pictures in advance in the MIL getup to show her, but put Baby Elf in the dress I bought for her and give her our Easter basket on Easter (not seeing MIL, so that's not a big deal).  Alternatively, I could send her pictures in the stuff WE got for her, and when she asks, say "oh, sorry, we already had all of this stuff for her.

Would you say anything to MIL to avoid this shizz in the future?  I'm totally picturing her doing this for all holidays like 4th of July, Xmas, etc.  Or just throw it in the back of the closet and do our own thing, without mentioning it?     


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Re: Annoyed at MIL and WWYD?

  • Since you don't live near her and don't have to see her, I would probably just take a picture of her another day or have her wear your dress for half the day and this dress half the day.  I don't think it's worth making a deal over because it would b
  • imagerblucy:
    Since you don't live near her and don't have to see her, I would probably just take a picture of her another day or have her

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  • Yeah, I understand.  I just think it's an easier one to let go rather than bring up.  If you don't want her wearing the dress at all on Easter, I would just put her in it another day and take a picture.  If you think she's likely to do this
  • ssagessage member
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    I say don't mention it.

    That sounds exactly like something my mom (not MIL) would do.  Alot of times she says stuff that makes my DH think "does she not think i don't know that or wouldn't do that?" kind of stuff...just like this.  I

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  • At least she sent it to you.  My MIL took J to JCP for his first Easter in an outfit she bought and had pictures done and cards which were sent out.  What I did after that and when I cooled off, is invited her to the next Easter shoot with MY

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  • OMG Navy, I would have flipped a lid about the pictures!  I guess I should be grateful MIL lives so far away!

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  • I don't think Grandparents think the same way we do. They most likely see something cute for their grandchild and just buy it. Of course us as mothers have everything set for holidays and always think ahead. They just don't look at it like that. As annoyi
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  • While i do not have kids, i do have a mom and was privy to the relationship with her and my sis and sis's kids.  I think grandmothers forget they were moms at one point and pull the grandma rules.  There are so many times i had to try to reig

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  • My mom actually bought us a dress for Sophie for Easter. I actually like it more than mine so assuming it fits, I'm using hers. It didn't bother me because I could always have used hers just for pics with the Easter bunny or another day if I didn't like i
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  • My MIL does this all the time.  I used to get Christmas dresses for Kaylee in the mail on December 23rd.  I used to thank her for the dress, and just put it to the side.  If she thinks that I'm that unorganized that the day before a major h
  • This whole post is making me feel kind of bad....1st Easter K had a really cute hand me down dress, last Easter my mom gave her one that she wore, and this year I got her a very informal dress that she's wearing with leggings, nothing special!  We

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