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Update-IL Drama *long*
Well the drama continues with FIL and SMIL. We are trying to just keep the drama down and act like adults. We are also trying to set boundaries and stand up for ourselves.
As you know FIL and SMIL will not be at Ava Nichol's bday party because "they have other plans with friends" but really because it is SMIL's bday weekend and they are going beer tasting Saturday night and will be hungover Sunday. They want to celebrate a different day but we don't.
Fast forwars to yesterday. DH gets a call from SMIL and she says they are having Easter Dinner on the 30th and if we want to come we can and that if we do they will get a cake for Ava Nichol. He said he needed to check and see if we had plans. We talked and then DH texted her back and said " we will be there for Easter dinner but you don't need to buy a cake because we don't want to celebrate her bd
Thay that day." She responds with..."woah am I missing something? Sorry we can't make it to her party."
Then FIL calls DH and says he doesn't remember any of the conversations they have had about Ava Nichol's bday and what does DH expect him to do? Is he supposed to pick DH over his wife, etc. DH told him that yes he was mad and hurt that his own dad won't be at his DD's 1st bday but don't let that change what FIL wants to do.
Later that day DH texted SMIL back and said "all I was saying is that we don't want to celebrate Ava Nichol's birthday at Easter dinner" and she said ok.
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Re: Update-IL Drama *long*
Stupid phone cut me off ...
Anyway all I was going to say was that is where things were left off and we are hoping everybody can just move on. We can accept that they won't be at her party and they can accept that we don't want to celebrate her b
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There is so much more to this and some of it is in the previous post but here is the deal....
We are making a point to set boundaries as a family. Part of that is that Ava Nichol is celebrating her bday on Sunday and not on any other day. If we s
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Also having cake at Easter dinner wouldn't be so bad but it would just be another time where they would have manipulated us into doing things their way. Their way is putting in the least amount of effort while still looking like good parents/gparents.<
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We did tell everyone when we planned the party that this was the only celebration we were having. They just thought they were the exception to the rule I guess.
They called and said they are going to make it now. I am glad they will be there but
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I reread my post and I can see how it looks like I am being a whiny brat.
Basically it looks like I am saying my IL's can't make it to the party so I am going to punish them by not allowing them to celebrate Ava Nichol's birthday.
I a
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I understand what you guys are saying I just think the part that you guys are missing is the IL family dynamic. FIL and MIL are divorced and remarried and divorced again and remarried again with exes still in the family picture. MIL's parents are also
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I can understand how this can look to internet strangers especially since you can't possibly have the full story plus you are only getting bits and pieces from one side.
I don't know if we are making the right decision either but I can tell you t
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Waterfall- Don't worry! I didn't think you were being difficult. I was just trying to figure out how to give more information. I can definitely see the other point of view here and I didn't feel like anybody was attacking me. I was just getting frustra
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