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Am I a bad person?

I just found out that someone that I know is having a baby girl that will be born with down syndrome.  They are pretty upset. But the bad part is that I don't feel bad for them.  I certinatly do not wish any disability on anyone, but the baby should be born healthy and can still have a functional life with minor help.  This totally might be my background of working with all ages of people with disabilities.  Also, my favorite disability (is that a thing?) is downs because they are generally so loving and live fufilling lives.  Please tell me if I am being a bad person.

Re: Am I a bad person?

  • I have a similar background as you, so I understand where you're coming from :) I do understand that the parents will go through a grieving process because although not necessarily bad, the life they will have will be different than what they imagined and
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  • I don't think your a bad person, I think the family is just going through an adjustment with the news they just learned. When we did our down syndrome screening I was a bit nervous for the results but I already knew no matter what that my baby would be am
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  • Thanks ladies.   I get that its an adjustment, but I just wanted to make sure I wasn't being out of bounds.  I would never tell them my feelings, but I of course feel bad for not feeling bad.
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    Thanks ladies.   I get that its an adjustment, but I just wanted to make sure I wasn't being out of bounds.&
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  • No not a bad person. We had to face the risk that our son may have had Down syndrome... At that moment I knew I would love him either way.  I'm very fortunate he was born healthy after all the scares we had it is truly a miracle. 
  • Not a bad person. I think the more that you are exposed to these things, the less you are scared about them. Do you know them well? I heard of this story quite a few times in college, and it might help them cope. It is an essay called "Welcome to Holla

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  • I don't think  you're a bad person at all. 

    I feel like I would much rather have a child with Downs than a child with Autism. And that just might sound mean, but that how I feel. Downs Syndrome kids are very loving,


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