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Invitation aftermath
well FI invited his parents....this past monday he was in a 25 car pileup. Car was totaled but he is fine. His family shows up at the hospital and as usual, the mother (who hasnt spoke to FI in 4+ months) is being ultra dramatic...sobbing and HYSTERICAL, shaking and all. 5 mins later the mother is rubbing the twin brothers face saying "my baby..i love you so much', like he was the one who was in a horrific crash. It was like the scene in the move Selena when the family found out she was shot and killed....but dysfuntional. It was so embarrassing. There are people in this ER with serious issues...my FI is absolutely fine, just at the ER to get checked out and so the insurance will cover any medical expenses he may have later on. A formality really.
He hasnt heard from his mother since. When I asked him what was the point of all of that, he said "to look good". Look good to who? the strangers in the ER?
two days later, his brother and father told him they arent sure if they can come to the wedding now because they have to see what the other families are going to do. If they all dont go together, no one is going i guess? (the same wedding that they so much wanted to be at, leaving VM's crying over it) Oh, and the dad said "what am I going to do if I come to your wedding and the rest of the family doesnt come? just sit there?" ...well, yeah. Its a dinner reception, sit there and have conversation with other people, maybe meet someone new, like normal people usually do.
Today, Dad threatens FI saying they (meaning the parents, and the other adult children who arent capable of making their own choices) wont come to the wedding unless FI comes over to "clear the air" which consists of him apologizing to them for asking them to stay out of his business regarding his personal life, and the issues between him and his sons mother. Basically, setting boundaries with them. Ya know... things that normal people do not get involved in.
Apparently, they think that them not being at this wedding will make or break it, because ya know....they are THAT important. FI told them, "you know what?...dont come" Of course, the father was completely shocked by that and didnt know what to say. So all he could say was "Im your father, dont talk to me like that"
These people are so fantastic. You cant help but laugh.
He hasnt heard from his mother since. When I asked him what was the point of all of that, he said "to look good". Look good to who? the strangers in the ER?
two days later, his brother and father told him they arent sure if they can come to the wedding now because they have to see what the other families are going to do. If they all dont go together, no one is going i guess? (the same wedding that they so much wanted to be at, leaving VM's crying over it) Oh, and the dad said "what am I going to do if I come to your wedding and the rest of the family doesnt come? just sit there?" ...well, yeah. Its a dinner reception, sit there and have conversation with other people, maybe meet someone new, like normal people usually do.
Today, Dad threatens FI saying they (meaning the parents, and the other adult children who arent capable of making their own choices) wont come to the wedding unless FI comes over to "clear the air" which consists of him apologizing to them for asking them to stay out of his business regarding his personal life, and the issues between him and his sons mother. Basically, setting boundaries with them. Ya know... things that normal people do not get involved in.
Apparently, they think that them not being at this wedding will make or break it, because ya know....they are THAT important. FI told them, "you know what?...dont come" Of course, the father was completely shocked by that and didnt know what to say. So all he could say was "Im your father, dont talk to me like that"
These people are so fantastic. You cant help but laugh.
Re: Invitation aftermath
He's acting like an awkward middle schooler.
It's really very simple: have dinner and talk to your dinner companions. An
Omg, they are classic abusive parents. Making a show to "prove" to someone(who? I think themselves) that they are caring and then reverting back. Reneging on good feelings and attempts and building a good relationship(it has to be their way!). Remember
Thank god we wont have to deal with them!!! the deadline is tomorrow, not because im a bridezilla but the venue needs a final count, no exceptions. im 97% sure ill get a text from someone todat saying how i should make FI fix this. i cant wait to respo
Oh so the drama has continued?!? I'm shocked! (Sarcasm here)
They won't care about head counts and deadlines. These people don't get it and it seems you don't as well. They will say they aren't going until the day of and then, SURPRISE!! Here we
My MIL and her family sounds like your future husband's family. Just remember this: you don't have to buy what they're selling. Lately my husband calls his family out when they're being overdramatic and fake. Sometimes my MIL will say flat out lies, li
UGH, is it too late to elope? lol! Sorry you are going through all of this!!
I agree with the person who said that they will act like they aren't coming up until the day of. Then magically, they'll show up! That's what some of my family members d
I agree that it sounds like you're in a crappy situation with his family, but, just playing devil's advocate -
How did they know he was in a car accident but fine? Why would you have called them from the hospital? And then not expect them to pani
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
I wrote a book! Bucket list CHECK!
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Then he needs to file contempt of the custody agreement with his lawyer. Wait he doesn't have a court order over custody, right?
You are doing it again. You get advice and then argue with every poster as to why that won't work or how "you know"