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The dance of in-laws and my parents
Looong story short my hubby and I met on a chance meeting (very serendipitous) when we lived quite far away from one another and wound up doing the long distance thing. When someone had to relocate after we got engaged I was the winner. In all fairness it was a well thought- out process and was based on financial reasons, being able to start a nest egg and husband getting his grad school degree complete and paid for. So I moved 4 hours from my rents and it weighs on my mind daily, im super close to them and my dad has health concerns. I feel guilty every day Im not there to check in. Husband knew I was making a huge sacrifice and promised he would move us closer to my family when done with school. Inlaws are 25 min. away and Im so jealous of that.
I frequently drive to see my folks and on days like Mother's Day and Father's Day my husband and I have an understanding, I go with my mom/dad for the weekend and he see's his (we dont have our own children...yet). Kids are probably in the foreseeable future and I worry...obv. on a day like Fathers Day i should be with my husband but I have never missed one with my dad. It sounds depressing but I dont know how many father's days he has left. Bc of his health its really hard for my parents to come see me. I guess Im not fishing for answers, maybe just wanted to get it off my mind. I miss them so much and kinda hate where I live but know in the big picture of life this was hands down the best decision for my husband and I to get our married life off on the right track.
Anyone else live far away from their parents/families b/c they relocated to where their husband is? How do you deal? Do you (have even the teensiest bit) of jealously your inlaws can see you whenever they want? I especially feel sad knowing my mom wont be able to pop by whenever she wants when the first grandchild comes along. I love my MIL but she isnt my mom...so with my first kid I wouldnt want her every day, Id want mine. Im sure some of you will think thats rude or selfish. Im just venting to the cyber world b/c Im missing my family these days. Thanks for listening.
Re: The dance of in-laws and my parents
I completely understand where your feelings are coming from, and I only moved 1.5 hrs away from my family/friends/hometown. I've actually battled a bit of resentment even though, like you, the decision to move back here was the most financially s
You are lucky it's only four hours. We are in TX and my family is in NY.
I already lived here when we got married and had our son but we always had the intention of moving up there. With the way things have panned out job wise, it has not b
I'm sorry to hear about your dad's health.
H and I are both far away from our parents, they're all on the other side of the Atlantic, but I can't say that I relate. Can't say if it's because I'm broken or simply I'm so happy that it makes e
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All my family lives close, within an hours drive, so I can't exactly relate. But I think your feelings are normal. My sister has 2 young children (2.5 and 10 months). Her husband insisted this past Christmas morning be spent just them
Both of our families are in Western Canada, we're in Europe. And we've got kids.
It sucks, but it can be done. 4 hours really isn't that terrible - but we had to stop looking at it from a "fairness" point of view. You are in a very fortunate pos
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
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