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Husband's Graduation
Hello,
I have some questions that I would like an "outsiders" opinion for. First off, my husband is 32 and he will be graduating from College this May. I am going to throw him a party for this. My husband is fine with me throwing a party. We both agreed that we want to keep this even low cost.
After we discussed this, his parents decided that they wanted to host their OWN party for him, they didn't want to host with me, they just wanted to host their own. They want to include only his family and me. Honestly, at first, I was like ok, he is a married man, this is my job, but I really don't care all that much anymore. That being said, do you think I even need to invite his family to the party that my husband and I throw? In my opinion, since his parents are hosting something and don't want to include my family, we shouldn't be inviting his to ours, simply because I don't want them to have to come to both parties, or feel obligated to buy a gift (Husband doesn't want gifts) for both. It kind of seems to me a little like inviting someone to a bridal shower, but not the wedding.-hope that makes sense....On the same side of that, I feel guilty for not including his family to the party that we will throw. I don't want them to feel excluded, but his parents refuse to throw a party together and it just seems wrong to invite them to both.
I realize that this sounds more of an issue between husband and his family, but I'm the one organizing his party, so I feel like it is an issue with me. I really just don't know what to do at this point. I mean this graduation is for my husband, I don't see why his parents need to be so involved. Do you think I am wrong? I have always been told high school graduation is for the parents, and college is for the child. But now that we are married, and I helped put him through school, I feel that this is for him and a little for me.
I'm at a loss of what to say or do, any help would be appreciated. I am still going through with the graduation party for him, just not sure what to do about his family...
Re: Husband's Graduation
Go to the party they are having and invite them to yours. They can choose to go or not and buy him another gift or not. I can understand his parents wanting a special party for him with only his family. They are proud of their son and want to show that
If it's his friends, coworkers and some classmates, no --- you are not obligated to ask your ILs. (I'd feel like I'm an ole fart impinging on a fun night, if I were one of your ILs and I'd take no offe
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Personally, I find it odd that his parents are throwing their 32 y/o married son a graduation party when they know you are doing it. I had parties for my son's high school graduation, and college 4 yrs later, and the college one seemed a bit like a "gi
I also find it odd that his parents must throw their 32 y/o married son a graduation party when the wife is throwing one. I would think that his parents would just come to the party that you are giving not to mention that you and your parents paid for
TTC since September 2012
I have found it weird too that they are so into throwing him a party. I never in my wildest dreams would have thought that they would throw him one. When they told me that they were, I'm sure my shock was written all over my face...Both of
I think it's your business to host your DH's grad party! Can your DH talk to his parents and tell them he just wants to have one party (I.e. yours) that everyone can come to? Two parties is just weird, and rude to your family.
My inlaws pulled so
Where is your DH in all of this? Does HE want 2 parties? If he doesn't and he too doesn't understand why they are throwing one - then HE needs to step up and tell them "Thanks, but smith has it covered".
If he either wants 2 pa
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10