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When in-laws ask you to travel long distance for the holidays...
My MIL wants me and my husband to fly out to spend Thanksgiving with her. She also will try to get our niece and her mother to fly out too. My BIL, my niece's father, will be released from prison this coming November after serving a year-long sentence. So MIL wants us to all be there to welcome him back into society and whatnot.
I honestly do not care much at all for my MIL and BIL, but will fly out for my husband's sake. The thing is he values my opinion. I don't want to make him not see his family though...
I realize that even with a non-dysfunctional family, couples will say no for reasons of their own. I've always preferred to spend holidays alone. My husband and I both struggle with depression and I get afraid of both our families setting us off. We're honestly at our best when it's just the two of us. But again, it's just to visit for a few days. So maybe I could push myself to do it?
The last component of this issue is that my MIL always gets really depressed/crazy/angry during the holidays from trauma she had as a child. There's always a fight, someone in the family has always greatly disappointed her expectations of the holiday, she is not being loved and appreciated enough, and so on and so forth. And my BIL..if you do not live up to his expectations either, he will get very angry and demanding. So is it worth it? My husband has spoken to them before about their behavior, but it only does so much good.
Re: When in-laws ask you to travel long distance for the holidays...
HOnestly, I don't feel that we know enough to tell you what to do.
One question, though. You say you and DH deal w/ depression. Do you get any help with that? If not, I would suggest getting help.
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I don't know. For the most part I say that it is your holiday too. If that isn't how both of you want to spend Thanksgiving, then don't go.
Now, if your husband wants to go, I would go but have scheduled breaks from his family where
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I take medication but we work so much that we haven't been able to go to individual therapy lately... Husband wants to play everything by ear but I would like to get tickets sooner than later on account of prices, that is if he wants to go.
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The thing is that we will be guests at his mom's and neither of us is old enough to rent a car while we're visiting (lol old enough to get married, work, and pay bills though). We have one friend in the area but we don't know if she'll be in town. Even
Most places will rent a car to people under 25, some with a fee. I would look into it and not assume anything. Get a hotel if you need to, there is nothing wrong with being people that need space.
You mention screaming at you, if they are n
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That's my worry, we wouldn't have an emergency plan. But I suppose we could always get a cab and then a hotel if need be.
As for the screaming...she has been confronted with this numerous times. She alwa