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Issue with In-laws??
So I don't post on here very often, but I really don't know where else to get some advice. For the most part, I love and get along with my in-laws. DH has had some issues with his family in the past, but we've never really had a problem. Just over a year ago, his parents inherited some money and gave all three of their kids a good amount to help out. We were extremely grateful, but DH grew upset when he learned his parents had started gambling again. They had an issue years ago and even lost their business because of their gambling issue, so DH got upset. He brought it to their attention, but like we said it was their money. When DH lost his dad back in September, he made the comment that even though it upset him, he was happy that his dad spent his money how he wanted to. With that money gone, his mom had to sell a house they had so she could have some money since she had no job. Now DH is worried she's gambling again. His checking account is linked with her account so he can see what she spends her money on and she's pulling out almost $1000 a day and he doesn't know why when she can use her card everywhere. Once that money is gone, it's gone. There's no reserve and she has no job. It makes me so angry that with everything DH is dealing with he's got this sort of issue to worry about. He already worries about his mom, now he's even more worried. I just don't know what to do nor do I have the right words to say. It's not my business, but when he talks to me about it I just don't have anything good to say. What can I do???
Re: Issue with In-laws??
All you can and should do is listen and offer support.
He has to sever finacial ties with his mother and seperate or take his name off that account. You two should also have a serious talk about what or if you two will help his mother out i
Kudos to the person who left them money. I wonder if this person knew about the gambling and left them a wad anyway?
(Are you certain it was inheritance money? Who knows where this pile of money came from?)
For love of mike: steer clear
Very important question-do they share an account (meaning he puts $ into it) or is he just on her account? I ask because my mom is on my grandma's account in case something happens, but does not put money in or take money out. If it is the first, HUGE
First, it sounds like DH's money and credit are not at risk with the joint account as PPs had suggested, as long as he's not putting money in the account and she doesn't have any debt linked to him (joint CC's, cosigned loans...) Still, I would suggest
"You know you're in love when you don't want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." - Dr. SeussIt is likely that grief has reignited your MIL's gambling addiction. Without a spouse with whom to abstain and her loss making her feel empty, gambling is a sure way to fill the hole in her life.
If your DH wants to help her AND your MIL is