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MIL vent
Let me start off by saying that I just had a baby 3 weeks ago so this may be a little hormonal...
I just talked to my MIL this morning and she asks when we are having another baby. I jokingly tell her it could be a looong time since my 30 hour labor is still giving me nightmares.. She says well you need to do it soon to prove the fortune teller wrong. Supposedly she went to a fortune teller like 20 years ago and she told my MIL that her oldest son would get married, have a daughter and then a few years later his wife would die leaving him and his daughter completely alone the rest of their lives. I have heard this story before, that supposedly I am going to die early but I am getting SO mad that she keeps talking about it! Especially recently! Who tells a pregnant lady and then a new Mom that she is going to die and leave her husband and daughter!? Now today she says the way I am going to die is in a car accident. I dont believe in all that fortune teller crap but I cant get it out of my mind.. I am already a nervous driver with LO as it is. And it makes me so sad to think of leaving them.... Damn pp hormones making it worse, I have been either crying or just super pissed all morning! Oh, and I have repeatedly told her that I dont want to hear about this and she keeps going on and on about all the stuff the fortune teller told her that came true and my poor DH has been told that his wife would die since he was a little kid.... Who does that!? grrrrrr
Re: MIL vent
I'm so sorry. Your MIL is nuts! Who says things like that? I know you said something before, but I would tell her again if she ever brings it up. Tell her in the most serious tone to not ever say that to you again. I would also tell your husband to tell his mother to knock it off. I'm so upset for you.
Congrats on your new baby!
TTC since September 2012
Two things.
1- your DH needs to step up here and tell her to knock it off.
2- the moment she starts up on this topic, you need to say "MIL, I'm not going to listen to this" and then hangup/ walk away. SHOW her through action that you won't tolerate this topic. Stop being an audience to it.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Wow...wtf
Your H needs to tell his lunatic for a mother to stfu with that bs....
Im sorry for you...but I would keep my distance if I were you....she sounds like a piece of work.
Yep, PPs are right. As soon as she brings up the topic, say " I am not going to listen to this" and then get the baby and leave.
I also would hope that your husband would back you up on this.
Oh and don't worry about the fortune teller crap either. That is a bunch of malarky.
Tell her you went to a fortune teller and she said MIL would be alone and cut from her granddaughter's life if she continued to speak of your impending doom. Sorry, but all her calls should go to voice mail until she knocks it off. Your DH has listened to this so long he may not realize that he is NOT telling her in a serious fashion to stop.
You asked who does that, I'll tell you who does that...a mentally ill person or one with no sense. Maybe you should start wailing into the phone when she tells you this crap, just scream OMG OMG. Then tell her you will haunt the hell out of her. Spoiling this time with your baby is cruel.
That woman and her nonsense would be as far from me and my child as humanly possible. What a piece of work.
You need to go no contact with her and tell your H she is out. This is a devastating thing to keep saying to a new mother. I can't fathom why your H isn't putting a stop to this by giving her an ultimatum but it seems you need to.
THIS!!!
Not sure if this makes you feel any better but my friend went to a supposed psychic when he was a teen. He was told he would get married and have five kids. He is now almost 40, gay and hates kids. So don't take that crap seriously.
but I do agree that your H needs to step up and tell her to cut it out. If she doesn't stop after that, then she's cut off. Stop answering her.
Maybe because my own MIL is evil and does hurtful, cruel things I would probably be tempted to say that I too went to a fortune teller and they told me (insert something about her). Honestly though, I would ask her do you remember how you felt after being a new mom? (listen to what she says) and then I would say now how would you feel if your MIL told you that you were going to die in a car crash after just having a baby? I would say I need your support I don't need you to rehash this fortune teller stuff one more time and every time you bring it up we are leaving and make sure your husband knows so that if she brings it up you both stand up, grab the kid and leave without saying a word. If it's over the phone you need to say the same thing and then promptly hang up. It's not a game and it's not funny and your MIL is being cruel and insensitive (stop feeling as if you are being overly sensitive and hormonal it is not you).
Plus if I listened to that fortune teller crap I would have had a set of triplets and twins by now.