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Working together and newlyweds
Hi,
So my husband and I have been married for 9 months but the past 2 years of our relationship has been odd. 6 months before our wedding I received a job offer that had us leave our hometown and venture to a new one. Upon arrival our understanding was that we would both have a fulltime job each and living quarters on stie. All of this was true until the owners of the business decided his job would be parttime within two months of us moving. Had we known this complication would have arisen we wouldn't have taken the job. We decided he would work with me part time and I started to notice an attitude change. We began arguing about silly things in which half way through the argument we would agree were stupid and just resolve it.
We got married in July and things were amazing for the first 3 months my best friend of 20 years decided to tell me that she doesn't think we should be married etc. etc. (this ended our friendship because she was too upset that my husband defriended her on FB when she stated the above instead of talking to me about it). Ever since then things have been a fight over the simplest of things. He got a new job in August and was working there until February. He decided to quit because the place he was working at had no respect for safety and I understood. I've been paying the bills not complaining and paying my personal debts from before the marriage myself (i.e. my student loan etc) .
He is still working part time with me but it's becoming ridiculous. We're supposed to be working togeher and yet it seems that he sees me as just his boss. I admit I've had to nag him to do things but he doesn't do them otherwise. I'm not sure what else to do. It's creating too much fighting in our relationship and it's not like we don't love each other it's just the fighting is about work. The downside to us moving and everything else is that if he quits his job here I lose mine, and our living quarters and with the wedding and everything else and him not working we don't have enough in our savings to help us.
So in other words I'm completely lost at what to do. I love him with all my heart and he says he loves me but I have no idea what to do to help the situation. I've read millions of articles and reached out to people I need some serious opinions. If you have any advice or can help me out in any way please comment below or send me a private message. Thank you
Re: Working together and newlyweds
Speaking from experience...it takes two very mature individuals that are in a relationship (married, or not) to work in the same place of business. Those two people have to learn not to bring their private lives into the workplace and vice versa. It's