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How Should I Directly Address My Father-in-Law?
This is going to sound terrible. My husband and I have been together for over four years, and married for six months.
In all of this time, I have never directly addressed his father.
My husband is named after his dad--Christopher I and Christopher II. My MIL calls my FIL Chris, and my husband Christopher. However, I have always called my husband Chris. He hates being called Christopher.
I think it would be awkward to mention now--four years later--that I dont' know what to call Chris I.
We don't have a good relationship with the in-laws, so I've always been able to avoid it. I figure, though, that sometime in the next few decades, I will have to directly address my FIL. Calling him Dad is not an option. I thought of doing something funny--like calling him Fil (Father-in-Law), but again, the relationship isn't great and it would be awkward to mention.
Help! I am stumped.
Sorry if all the I's and II's make this hard to follow!
Any suggestions?
Re: How Should I Directly Address My Father-in-Law?
I would just call him Chris.
We have a similar situation, my husband is Paul and both his father & stepfather are named Paul. The entire family calls DH by a nickname that he hates & I refuse to do so. So I call them all Paul. Usual
Given most adults understand conversational context, I am having a hard time trying to figure out how you have had such a hard time with this situation.
And I am not trying to be snarky here, but you seriously have never directly addressed this man in 4+ years? And you wonder why you have a strained relaitonship?
Just as the default relationship for Inlaws (with spouses) is one of mutual re
Wow...
Not that it's any of your business, but my husband's parents were physically and emotionally abusive to him.
I never said that I haven't spoken to my father-in-law. I have, every time we see them. I've just never said, "Hey, Ch
Believe me, I have treated them with nothing but respect. I'm sorry that you find it hard to believe that I've never had to directly address my FIL, but that doesn't mean it's not true. It is possible to have conversations with someone (yes, even meani
Your post made me think about my FIL. I've been with my husband way longer than 5 years and I have never called my FIL by his name. I didn't think about that till now. MH is named after his father but they aren't close at all. MH side of the family cal
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My mother and father have been married for 27 years, and my mom has never addressed either of my father's parents by their name. She said that she has always felt uncomfortable calling them by their first names and has also felt uncomfortable by
I didn't call my inlaws anything for 10 years. I just avoided it because I wasn't comfortable with any of my options. My MIL and I have the same name and calling her by my name just feels weird and weird's out my husband too. And I ha
WOW some people are very judgy. I have know my husband since I was 16 so 10 years now. We were sent to the same boarding school because our parents just couldn't figure us out I guess. In the 10 years I have known him I have spent little time wit