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Lies about pregnancy and the dad?
This is a LONG story, so I will try to sum it up quickly...but I need some serious advice. My little sister is 20 years old and in college. About a week ago she came to me and said she was pregnant with her current boyfriend. I was a little skeptical b/c she's lied before, so I had her take two pregnancy tests at my house. Both positive. Of course she was confused and upset, so I encouraged her to go to her obgyn to make sure. They did bloodwork etc and confirmed a due date. She was an emotional wreck and the crazy part was I had never met her boyfriend. I had heard stories about him, just never met him.
I had a gut feeling that something about her story was off. I asked her to show me pics of her boyfriend. She pulls up his facebook page, goes through his pics, points out his family, the whole nine yards. The weird part though, was she wasn't on his friends list. I thought that was weird. Wouldn't the father of your baby and boyfriend be a friend with you on facebook?
Last night she calls me and says she's miscarrying. I honestly suspect she got an abortion and just didn't want our family to think bad of her. She told me her and her boyfriend were at the hospital and he was being so supportive. But then I still have not met him.
So I couldn't let it rest. I sent him a message and no response. So I clicked on his family and sent his sister in law a message. I actually graduated high school with her so she was really open with me and had him call me. He has never even met my sister!!!! She made the entire thing up! She was so detailed about his life, it was scary. She even told me he had a nephew with special needs. Which he doesn't.
My question is, how do I approach her with this? Could she fake a pregnancy test? Who the heck is the father? I'm so confused and mad that she could tell me a million lies about this guy
Re: Lies about pregnancy and the dad?
What is disturbing is that she pinned the rose on him and she never even met the guy.
She had a one night stand with somebody and was emba
O.k... you were SO in the wrong to contact her "boyfriend". Please realize that. You were out of place to do that. In the end- does it matter if you've met him or not? No. It doesn't.
Now - the fact is you did and y
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Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
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I think that you should apologize to your sister for overreacting the way that you did (and a proper, sincere apology. That means no "but" involved ie: I'm sorry for overreacting the way that I did, but I only did it because I'm so worried about you")
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
I wrote a book! Bucket list CHECK!
http://notesfortheirtherapist.blogspot.co.uk
I agree with everything said by the above posters. In addition, my guess is she makes stuff up because she feels she has to justify something to someone. She's 20, in college, and probably living a life of school, fun with friends, and maybe some inapp
This is not about you. At all.
Who the father is and whether she had an abortion are not your business. Grilling her about her pregnancy and contacting the guy were so wrong. Apologize sincerely, show her real support, sto
Last I checked, you're not her mother, and she's an adult. Regardless of if she had an abortion or if she miscarried, it's honestly none of your effing business.
And the fact that you not only contacted the guy, but also his sister in law on FB
I'm more than willing to start validating people's ideas when they start having ideas worth validating
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DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I'm more than willing to start validating people's ideas when they start having ideas worth validating
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
I wrote a book! Bucket list CHECK!
http://notesfortheirtherapist.blogspot.co.uk
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TTC since September 2012
Wow I didn't expect that much response venom when I was reading the the post. Honestly, she did say that she thought her sister was lying, and she did contact the guy first without a response. She also said that she contacted the sister because SHE ALR